Family…aaargh!

[Spiky Bugger]

Today we learned that one extended family member is pregnant. Are we cheering? No; we’re groaning. Why? Does this make me an elitist snob?

The preggers lady is 38 years old, weighs at least 325# so maybe not a great place to start, is unmarried, makes about $45,000/yr (in her zip code the cheapest 2 Bed, 1 Bath, 682 sq ft apt rents for $2100/mo…so 80% of her net pay.) She and her boyfriend have, for a few years, lived with his parents…and her 17-yr-old from a previous liasion (who disappeared at the time of the positive pregnancy test 18 years ago) also live there, in a three-bedroom apartment.

I do not understand why people who do not have the resources to care for themselves create “underprivileged children.” (That’s a term we used to use.).

(The saving grace is that we don’t share any DNA. She is the step-daughter of a family member.)

I repeat: AAAARGH!!!

 

[Larra]

This is one of the disadvantages of having extended family. The further you extend, the more problems you encounter. Somehow, and probably with lots of help from the government and various helpful agencies, they will muddle along.

 

[southernlady]

Extended unrelated family can be a real pain in the ass. Good luck to them.

 

[JackieOnLine]

hopefully the new baby daddy will be more responsible that the last one, and possibly his parents might help. but, basically, what Larra said.

that news aside, I hope you had a good holiday @Spiky Bugger.

 

[Spiky Bugger]

This is one of the disadvantages of having extended family. The further you extend, the more problems you encounter. Somehow, and probably with lots of help from the government and various helpful agencies, they will muddle along.

I know. It is, I think, the chutzpah factor. My sister and I were discussing this. It never occurred to us that we could count on muddling. Of course, our kid has always known that she has “back up,” and her partner (boyfriend) has always known he is responsible for his own decisions and actions, with no back up. Guess which one makes more money and has debt. Yeah, her.

 

[Spiky Bugger]

Extended unrelated family can be a real pain in the ass. Good luck to them.

I think they are counting on luck. I hope they have lottery tickets.

 

[Spiky Bugger]

hopefully the new baby daddy will be more responsible that the last one, and possibly his parents might help. but, basically, what Larra said.

that news aside, I hope you had a good holiday @Spiky Bugger.

Same wishes to you, Jackie!