OMFG. I was texting with my sister last night, after she spoke to Dad and GF on the phone. (I should point out that we have apparently taken on Good Cop/Bad Cop roles, and as usual, I’m the Bad Cop.) She said the two of them are now contemplating a new scheme.
During a phone call on the 26th with Dad’s Physician’s Assistant from the VA (she makes house calls, checks Dad, sets up his pills, and has also been involved in a bit of social work/counseling with them; I met with her this summer and we talk from time to time as well as this move has been planned), including Dad and GF, the PA mentioned to me with regardto long term planning that there might be group homes in the Phoenix area for Dad that were approved by the VA, rather than the downtown Phoenix VA long term care facility, like there are in California.
Apparently, this has set GF off on a new quest to try to find out if he can move into one of these in the Bay Area, rather than moving in with us in AZ. I am livid.
She had better not try to change the plan at this point. I’m somewhat OK if this is just a backup plan in case he’s unhappy here, because I truly think he won’t be, but everyone who warned me that it ain’t over yet - including Charles - was right.
He needs to live with US, with FAMILY, not in a group home where he will be isolated 99% of the time, and where his care can’t be supervised!
I’m up early because I have to drive Charles to an appointment for a UGI this morning, but I’m going to have to get ahold of the PA and his VA social worker as soon as the VA opens in CA this morning.
I know they are both afraid of being separated, but this is not an acceptable alternative.