Sorry to hear you are not yet back to yourself!
When I was married I always wondered at the mystery of my H being able to walk past the same piece of dirt for months without it ever occurring to him that he should pick up whatever and dispose of it. Sometimes I thought it was because he had been too well taken care of for his whole life. Other times I thought it was intentional. I guess it just depended on my mood at the moment. Once upon a time, he did admit to intentionally doing a bad job cleaning to avoid being responsible in the future.
This is actually different in that he will eventually be the one who has to deal with it and he won’t bitch about it.
I guess I’m so incredibly lazy that I try to consolidate the labor into as few trips as possible. But he’s kind of a “one trick pony,” in that if there are three things in front of him that need to get to the kitchen, chances are good that it will take him three trips.
AND, and this REALLY gets to me, there will never be any advance planning on where whatever it is he is carrying is going to go. So if it’s kind of large for our not-so-large kitchen‘s counter space…a pressure cooker, air fryer, Forman grill…he will go GET the item and then just stand in the kitchen, staring at the already crowded counters and pondering (I think) what to do next. He SHOULD BE pondering why he didn’t make sure there was a free space to put the damned thing down BEFORE he picked it up.
I
THINK it’s because he worked, for 35+ years, in jobs where there were very strict, do-it-this-way-or-you’ll-probably-die-and-take-a-few-others-with-you, rules. He will willingly follow any list, but it never occurs to him that, since he’s been retired for 15 years, he’s now in charge of MAKING the lists.
But, he’s a smart ass. I read these posts to him and he said, “Well, I won’t be walking past that stuff any more. If I go the other way to the kitchen…through the hall and then the dining room…I won’t be anywhere near your stuff that needs to be moved.” And THAT is why I keep him.
