Spiky Bugger
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So, on other boards, I have made reference to a sociopath of my acquaintance. In kindergarten, I met the guy she would later marry. I met her in summer school in junior high. They met in high school.
He's nuts...really abusive mom. Horrible childhood, exacerbated by Viet Nam. One of his bros was killed whilst robbing a bank. The other bro ate a shotgun. Sister moved away on 18th birthday. NOT a happy family. So he fit right in with the sociopath's situation. Her mom got hauled off to the Home for the Perpetually Bewildered when Sociopath was about eleven or twelve years old, leaving her as primary caregiver for four younger siblings. Dad remained as distant as ever...as though everything was just fine. And religion was center to their lives.
She became more and more of a scam artist over time. As in, Social Security Disability for Agoraphobia...unless you offer her free airfare and accommodations to be on the old Maury show or to go to India. She's not too afraid to leave the house if you can send her to freakin' INDIA. And do you need someone to run the place at church where you can donate usable good clothing and home goods to the less fortunate? Well, if you choose her, you can go visit the good stuff at her house. Do you like winning? She does. She tried to enter one of her sons into Special Olympics, insisting he had spina bifida. Which means that there HAS been a miracle, since he has passed the physical for at least two police departments.
Btw...many on other boards thought that I was secretly talking about Diana's sociopath. I resent that; I have my own. Well, I did. Maybe eight years ago, give or take, I walked away from a decades-long relationship because the crazy was getting deeper and, truth be told, I am a better human when I'm not involved with her.
Anyway...reunions with overlapping classes...I got an email, asking if that was the same person from the Catholic HS, and a link to the sociopath's FB page. OMFG!
Well...she apparently has been dealing with breast cancer and diabetes. That is too bad and I do feel bad for her about those things. How-fucking-ever, it's Stage II and that means a 93% 5-year survival rate. So, it's one of those, too-bad-but-good-thing-you-got-it-fairly-early kind of situations. But the DRAMA on her FB page...posts about "it's just me and my tears and God and these old photographs, and my family has abandoned me" bullshit.
And photos of her poor dead husband. But see...her husband...the real one...is the guy who lives with her. They have been married for almost 50 years. This other guy? He dumped her ass. He was seeing other women. We know this because she went through his Day Planner while he showered. She was trying to argue her way back into his life, so she went to his place. His car was there, he didn't answer the phone or the door, apt mgr unlocked door and he was dead inside.
But you know what? She simultaneously posts family photos that include the real husband AND photos of herself with the dead guy, before he was dead, calling him her late husband. And even posting photos of his grandchildren. Which is stalker-scary to me.
And God? She is a devout Catholic AND a mail order minister from some online place. She will marry you and bury your loved ones...for a small donation. She is especially good at "comforting" the grief-stricken. I strongly suspect that she spent a lot of time "comforting" the dead guy's parents....there were many trips to their home when she had no travel money. (Elder abuse?)
As a recovering Catholic and devout atheist, I find some of this confusing. Back when I was being brainwashed, we were warned about dying with a stack of sins on our plates. So if you REALLY believed your life was in danger and REALLY believed there was a God of Heaven and Hell, wouldn't it be time to at least STOP telling the lies? I mean...maybe a public confession for the PRIOR lies isn't necessary, but a cease fire on TELLING the same or new lies might be in order.
Anyway...I just wanted to share...
...and to rant...and to not let Diana (and @Sheanie ) get all the credit for THEIR sociopaths.
Done.
For a while, anyway.
He's nuts...really abusive mom. Horrible childhood, exacerbated by Viet Nam. One of his bros was killed whilst robbing a bank. The other bro ate a shotgun. Sister moved away on 18th birthday. NOT a happy family. So he fit right in with the sociopath's situation. Her mom got hauled off to the Home for the Perpetually Bewildered when Sociopath was about eleven or twelve years old, leaving her as primary caregiver for four younger siblings. Dad remained as distant as ever...as though everything was just fine. And religion was center to their lives.
She became more and more of a scam artist over time. As in, Social Security Disability for Agoraphobia...unless you offer her free airfare and accommodations to be on the old Maury show or to go to India. She's not too afraid to leave the house if you can send her to freakin' INDIA. And do you need someone to run the place at church where you can donate usable good clothing and home goods to the less fortunate? Well, if you choose her, you can go visit the good stuff at her house. Do you like winning? She does. She tried to enter one of her sons into Special Olympics, insisting he had spina bifida. Which means that there HAS been a miracle, since he has passed the physical for at least two police departments.
Btw...many on other boards thought that I was secretly talking about Diana's sociopath. I resent that; I have my own. Well, I did. Maybe eight years ago, give or take, I walked away from a decades-long relationship because the crazy was getting deeper and, truth be told, I am a better human when I'm not involved with her.
Anyway...reunions with overlapping classes...I got an email, asking if that was the same person from the Catholic HS, and a link to the sociopath's FB page. OMFG!
Well...she apparently has been dealing with breast cancer and diabetes. That is too bad and I do feel bad for her about those things. How-fucking-ever, it's Stage II and that means a 93% 5-year survival rate. So, it's one of those, too-bad-but-good-thing-you-got-it-fairly-early kind of situations. But the DRAMA on her FB page...posts about "it's just me and my tears and God and these old photographs, and my family has abandoned me" bullshit.
And photos of her poor dead husband. But see...her husband...the real one...is the guy who lives with her. They have been married for almost 50 years. This other guy? He dumped her ass. He was seeing other women. We know this because she went through his Day Planner while he showered. She was trying to argue her way back into his life, so she went to his place. His car was there, he didn't answer the phone or the door, apt mgr unlocked door and he was dead inside.
But you know what? She simultaneously posts family photos that include the real husband AND photos of herself with the dead guy, before he was dead, calling him her late husband. And even posting photos of his grandchildren. Which is stalker-scary to me.
And God? She is a devout Catholic AND a mail order minister from some online place. She will marry you and bury your loved ones...for a small donation. She is especially good at "comforting" the grief-stricken. I strongly suspect that she spent a lot of time "comforting" the dead guy's parents....there were many trips to their home when she had no travel money. (Elder abuse?)
As a recovering Catholic and devout atheist, I find some of this confusing. Back when I was being brainwashed, we were warned about dying with a stack of sins on our plates. So if you REALLY believed your life was in danger and REALLY believed there was a God of Heaven and Hell, wouldn't it be time to at least STOP telling the lies? I mean...maybe a public confession for the PRIOR lies isn't necessary, but a cease fire on TELLING the same or new lies might be in order.
Anyway...I just wanted to share...
...and to rant...and to not let Diana (and @Sheanie ) get all the credit for THEIR sociopaths.Done.
For a while, anyway.
