No, not who you think, but I need some opinion and perspective here.
If you know me from FB, you know 2013 was a year from hell while my son went through aggressive chemo for his lymphoma. I reached out on a lymphoma support forum and made a few online friends. We corresponded on FB and email, never on the phone.
Since we all here have varying degrees of online relationships, let me ask your opinion. I have two women that I am closest to online, and I find myself uncomfortably stalked by one, and yelled at by another.
Woman 1 - She got way too close too soon. She lives in NYC and invited me to stay at her apartment while my son was in the hospital. She invited me to Thanksgiving dinner. I declined it all. (Jeez, writing this makes me feel like a bitch). She is very nice, and I know she and her husband are both corporate executives. I blew her off many times mostly because I wasn't ready to open up or engage in person. However, now if she goes more than a day without hearing from me, she sends me emails that say "PLEASE CHECK IN". I've told her I"m fine and I am back to my busy life and might not be able to chat every day, but she insists that I drop her an email to let her know how I am every day.
Woman 2 - This woman is another lymphoma mom with a son same age as Tim. She was a rock for me and a big source of support. When things started happening fast for Tim in December, and then the holidays, I apparently shot her a quick email that I cant remember, telling her that I'd get back to her. I dont remember that, and I didn't. She sent me a lengthy email about how much I used her, and that she knows I found more interesting and better friends (I think she's referring to Woman 1). I also tried to explain my feelings to her and all I got back again was how much I hurt her.
I dont even know if you all followed that!
I like both of these women immensely, but how are they not getting that I need some space? You guys know me online - do I do anything to cause this? Maybe I'm not direct enough?
If you know me from FB, you know 2013 was a year from hell while my son went through aggressive chemo for his lymphoma. I reached out on a lymphoma support forum and made a few online friends. We corresponded on FB and email, never on the phone.
Since we all here have varying degrees of online relationships, let me ask your opinion. I have two women that I am closest to online, and I find myself uncomfortably stalked by one, and yelled at by another.
Woman 1 - She got way too close too soon. She lives in NYC and invited me to stay at her apartment while my son was in the hospital. She invited me to Thanksgiving dinner. I declined it all. (Jeez, writing this makes me feel like a bitch). She is very nice, and I know she and her husband are both corporate executives. I blew her off many times mostly because I wasn't ready to open up or engage in person. However, now if she goes more than a day without hearing from me, she sends me emails that say "PLEASE CHECK IN". I've told her I"m fine and I am back to my busy life and might not be able to chat every day, but she insists that I drop her an email to let her know how I am every day.
Woman 2 - This woman is another lymphoma mom with a son same age as Tim. She was a rock for me and a big source of support. When things started happening fast for Tim in December, and then the holidays, I apparently shot her a quick email that I cant remember, telling her that I'd get back to her. I dont remember that, and I didn't. She sent me a lengthy email about how much I used her, and that she knows I found more interesting and better friends (I think she's referring to Woman 1). I also tried to explain my feelings to her and all I got back again was how much I hurt her.
I dont even know if you all followed that!
I like both of these women immensely, but how are they not getting that I need some space? You guys know me online - do I do anything to cause this? Maybe I'm not direct enough?