Elizabeth N.
Herder of cats
.....Doesn't mean you should wear it.
This is a vital lesson for some folks to learn as the weight comes off. When we were big, we might have had to just wear what we could get to fit, more or less. Then when OPTIONS arrive, it can be incredible.
The Juniors department has this irresistible draw for a lot of women. I went there, too
. It didn't take long for me to get tired of getting cold kidneys from the gap between my waistband and my shirt, so I got over that phase rapidly.
Now, if you're, oh I dunno, 25 and you want to play in teenager clothes, it might work. For yours truly who is a Woman of a Certain Age, it's dumb.
My advice, which is thankfully free, about experimenting with clothing:
1. Take multiple shopping trips, and take a different Trusted Person with you each time. That way you will get a variety of opinions, BUT you will have someone there who will say, 'SHIT NO, YOU CAN'T WEAR THAT IN PUBLIC!' if needed, OR who will encourage you to be a little braver or bolder in your choices.
2. If someone says it's too big, believe them. Clothes are not supposed to be baggy. If you hold out your arms and there's a bunch of space between your armpit and your shirt sleeve, the shirt is too big. If you are counting on the flare of your hips to hold up your pants, they are too big.
3. Even while you are losing weight, ladies, GET BRAS THAT FIT RIGHT. Go get professionally fitted. You might decide you don't need a boob job (yet, anyway) when you discover that the right bra will put the girls where they belong.
4. Examine your clothing from MANY angles, not just head on in the mirror. Bend over. Sit down. Cross your legs. Move around. Get into the positions you normally get into throughout the day and check out what happens with your clothing.
Mr. EN has a particular pet peeve that he wishes me to mention: Professional Woman with a top that neatly covers the boobage, but only JUST, when standing or sitting straight, but as soon as she leans over to so much as grab a sheet of paper from the printer, shows a lot more information than he ever wanted to know. This could be avoided with a little bit of exercise in front of the mirror at the store.
5. If someone tells you, "You can wear anything you want if it makes you happy," back WAY WAY UP and consider the source. I ADORE my Testicle Festival t shirts. They make me smile, and I LOVE the looks on people's faces when they read them.
If I showed up at work in one.....'Nuff said.
So, WHY is this not as obvious when it comes to that denim miniskirt, little stretch satin tank top and spike heeled ankle boots that you, a woman with some wisdom lines on her face and a few squiggly lines (some white, some blue) on the backs of her knees, wants to wear out to a party with people you usually see only in the office?
I am also the woman who showed up at a DSer Ugly Christmas Sweater party dressed as a sparkly silver ornament, complete with blinking light earrings and flashing tiara over bright red curly wig. Silver stretch lame leggings and a vintage silver sequined disco dress, and mega spike heeled boots. Pictures exist somewhere on Facebook.
Even IF that getup still fit, which it doesn't, I wouldn't wear it anywhere EXCEPT to another such DSer party. There's a time and a place for stuff. So please, if someone tries to be a Voice of Reason when you are busy pushing the outer limits of attire, stop and think about it for a bit.
Okay, who's next?
This is a vital lesson for some folks to learn as the weight comes off. When we were big, we might have had to just wear what we could get to fit, more or less. Then when OPTIONS arrive, it can be incredible.
The Juniors department has this irresistible draw for a lot of women. I went there, too
. It didn't take long for me to get tired of getting cold kidneys from the gap between my waistband and my shirt, so I got over that phase rapidly.Now, if you're, oh I dunno, 25 and you want to play in teenager clothes, it might work. For yours truly who is a Woman of a Certain Age, it's dumb.
My advice, which is thankfully free, about experimenting with clothing:
1. Take multiple shopping trips, and take a different Trusted Person with you each time. That way you will get a variety of opinions, BUT you will have someone there who will say, 'SHIT NO, YOU CAN'T WEAR THAT IN PUBLIC!' if needed, OR who will encourage you to be a little braver or bolder in your choices.
2. If someone says it's too big, believe them. Clothes are not supposed to be baggy. If you hold out your arms and there's a bunch of space between your armpit and your shirt sleeve, the shirt is too big. If you are counting on the flare of your hips to hold up your pants, they are too big.
3. Even while you are losing weight, ladies, GET BRAS THAT FIT RIGHT. Go get professionally fitted. You might decide you don't need a boob job (yet, anyway) when you discover that the right bra will put the girls where they belong.
4. Examine your clothing from MANY angles, not just head on in the mirror. Bend over. Sit down. Cross your legs. Move around. Get into the positions you normally get into throughout the day and check out what happens with your clothing.
Mr. EN has a particular pet peeve that he wishes me to mention: Professional Woman with a top that neatly covers the boobage, but only JUST, when standing or sitting straight, but as soon as she leans over to so much as grab a sheet of paper from the printer, shows a lot more information than he ever wanted to know. This could be avoided with a little bit of exercise in front of the mirror at the store.
5. If someone tells you, "You can wear anything you want if it makes you happy," back WAY WAY UP and consider the source. I ADORE my Testicle Festival t shirts. They make me smile, and I LOVE the looks on people's faces when they read them.
If I showed up at work in one.....'Nuff said.
So, WHY is this not as obvious when it comes to that denim miniskirt, little stretch satin tank top and spike heeled ankle boots that you, a woman with some wisdom lines on her face and a few squiggly lines (some white, some blue) on the backs of her knees, wants to wear out to a party with people you usually see only in the office?
I am also the woman who showed up at a DSer Ugly Christmas Sweater party dressed as a sparkly silver ornament, complete with blinking light earrings and flashing tiara over bright red curly wig. Silver stretch lame leggings and a vintage silver sequined disco dress, and mega spike heeled boots. Pictures exist somewhere on Facebook
.Even IF that getup still fit, which it doesn't, I wouldn't wear it anywhere EXCEPT to another such DSer party. There's a time and a place for stuff. So please, if someone tries to be a Voice of Reason when you are busy pushing the outer limits of attire, stop and think about it for a bit.
Okay, who's next?
