hilary1617
First time at the rodeo.
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You are a bright, beautiful person and the world benefits from you being here. Not to be a huge downer, and I only mention this in the spirit of "tough love", but as SSMO and 35, it's not just trading off the low risk of death during the procedure against the high risk of early death and debilitating conditions "five or ten miserable years" from now. The surgical risk should also be weighed against a low, but certainly not-zero risk of death from obesity-related conditions in the short term. Hopefully you've been checked for sleep apnea and either don't have it or are being treated for it, but you are certainly at increased risk today for blood clots / stroke /p.e., reduced ability to recover if a serious injury occurs, etc....
In my case I had a DS it not just for me, but also so those I love wouldn't continue to worry about my limited future and so that I would be around for them. I definitely freaked out and was scared. That's only natural. But I knew in my heart it was the right decision.
My boss, husband, children and parents were supportive. My sister was a major road block - once I discovered her view wasn't helpful, I told her that the decision was mine, it was final and she was not to mention it to me again in the time before surgery. She persisted and I chose not to answer her calls until after surgery. I had to do what was best for me and I couldn't let her interfere.
Wishing you strength in this journey.
In my case I had a DS it not just for me, but also so those I love wouldn't continue to worry about my limited future and so that I would be around for them. I definitely freaked out and was scared. That's only natural. But I knew in my heart it was the right decision.
My boss, husband, children and parents were supportive. My sister was a major road block - once I discovered her view wasn't helpful, I told her that the decision was mine, it was final and she was not to mention it to me again in the time before surgery. She persisted and I chose not to answer her calls until after surgery. I had to do what was best for me and I couldn't let her interfere.
Wishing you strength in this journey.