I've now had a third consult with a surgeon and am officially stressed out by choosing a surgeon and having surgery. I have canceled my surgery that was to be done next week and ruled out that particular surgeon. That leaves 2 possible surgeons now.
I went to the Cleveland Clinic (about 4 hours from here) and saw "one of the best surgeons in the country" and "people come from all over the world to see me" guy. He does at least 100 of these surgeries every year. Then, I met with another surgeon at another large medical center about an hour from here. She is experienced in complex hernias and AWR but also does other types of surgery. I decided to sleep on it and hoped a decision would come to me.
I believe I am going to go with the woman surgeon who is closer to home based strictly on intuition and her bedside manner. She is very detailed oriented, took lots of notes while she interviewed me about my medical history, spent a lot of time with me, explained the surgery in detail, drew pictures, told me her partner (gen. surgeon) would be the extra pair of hands during surgery (surgery is 5-6 hours long), informed me of possible concerns she had (i.e. wound healing based on my history) and how she would handle any potential complications (transfer me to the downtown hospital and put me in ICU).
My brain wants to go to the best at Cleveland Clinic but the surgeon was rushed, didn't have time for me, and had students/residents with him. He never read the letter I gave him from Dr. K. It was thrown to the side. I needed more details and explanation on the techniques he would use and the size and type of mesh. Still, his statements echo in my mind that I have "a very large hernia", "this is a huge operation" and "you have only one shot to get this right" and, "you need to be at the Cleveland Clinic and get it done right." Logistically and financially it will be a strain, plus he does not have any surgery openings until October. I am physically uncomfortable and my hernia is getting larger. I believe the resident that was with him will be assisting because I heard them talking in the hall about me. The surgeon said to the resident, "should we do this surgery?" and "she seems like a nice woman." He says he can get my stomach flat. The woman surgeon says she knows she can get the protrusion down by at least 50%, maybe more, but it depends on what my muscles look like on the inside. She explained that my muscle is split up to my ribs and she will need to watch me in surgery to see if I have respiratory distress from the muscles being pulled too tightly and would adjust according to my breathing patterns.
Often my "gut" feelings are right, but I am second guessing myself. To cover my bases, I signed consents for surgery at each place -- ha!
Any insights?