Spiky, Where U B?

[robs477]

Been kinda quite here lately???

 

[DianaCox]

I talked to her today. She's been very busy and feeling a little unwell, but mostly OK.

 

[newanatomy]

Hope she is up to no good soon.

 

[Barb1]

Jesus @robs477 You read my damn mind. I was just getting ready to post this same thing! I really miss our @Spiky Bugger too! I hope you get to feeling better soon Sue and I understand the busy with your life thing! That happened to me over the holidays. It one of the reason I am so much in awe of Diana, En (@Elizabeth N. where you been lately your kinda of quiet around here for you) Liz and other people who devote so much of their time helping others.

 

[robs477]

Jesus @robs477 You read my damn mind. I was just getting ready to post this same thing! I really miss our @Spiky Bugger too! I hope you get to feeling better soon Sue and I understand the busy with your life thing! That happened to me over the holidays. It one of the reason I am so much in awe of Diana, En (@Elizabeth N. where you been lately your kinda of quiet around here for you) Liz and other people who devote so much of their time helping others.

Yeah, its not like her to be that quiet for too long!

 

[Spiky Bugger]

Hi...thanks for missing me!

We have been deciding, and acting on decisions...and spending money and getting tired.

Essentially, we will probably return to SoCal. Maybe this summer. I have health issues, he has health issues--nothing overwhelming at the minute--my sister (in So Cal) has health issues, her husband...my age... has buried his two (younger) brothers in the past two years reminding us that we might not last forever. Meanwhile, daughter has decided to accept a job offer that will be better for her in the long run, but offers almost zero flexibility in terms of hours...aaaaand, that will--sooner or later--mean that neither she nor her bf will be able to to take his little one to school AND get themselves to work on time. IOW, it will take a village to raise each other!

UNFORTUNATELY, we bought this money pit with the notion we would be here a while, and poured a shitload of money into it. So we probably need to rent it out for a few years. We are not "underwater" on a loan, we just invested more than we can get out right away and we DON'T want to take a bath on it. Meanwhile, a couple of neighbors decided this was a good time to unload fixer-uppers, thus producing lower-priced "comps" for anyone we'd want to sell to. And yet, to rent it, we need to spend more...re-plastering and fencing the pool. And we HATE renting out houses; we seem to be experts at finding normal, responsible people just before they go over the deep end and become unemployed, divorcing, deadbeat ********.

So we are up to our ***** in alligators.

And I think I got some bad shrimp when we went out. Two a.m. potty calls are a pretty good sign.

 

[Barb1]

Oh **** Sue it sounds like you have a full plate for sure.This getting old **** is for the birds. I hope you and your DH like the idea of moving to So Cal to be closer to your sister and BIL. Will this take you closer or further away from your daughter? I have never had food poisoning and hope I never do.
I also would never want to be a landlord especially if I had to be a long distance one. I hope things work out and your health improves! Take care!
Barb

 

[Elizabeth N.]

Jesus @robs477 You read my damn mind. I was just getting ready to post this same thing! I really miss our @Spiky Bugger too! I hope you get to feeling better soon Sue and I understand the busy with your life thing! That happened to me over the holidays. It one of the reason I am so much in awe of Diana, En (@Elizabeth N. where you been lately your kinda of quiet around here for you) Liz and other people who devote so much of their time helping others.

Thanks, I'm fine, just busy with the new/expanded job, the never-ending inlaw ********, the usual stuff. By the time I catch up on the Facebook group, it seems to be time to go do something for which I get paid *g*.

 

[Spiky Bugger]

Oh **** Sue it sounds like you have a full plate for sure.This getting old **** is for the birds. I hope you and your DH like the idea of moving to So Cal to be closer to your sister and BIL. Will this take you closer or further away from your daughter? I have never had food poisoning and hope I never do.
I also would never want to be a landlord especially if I had to be a long distance one. I hope things work out and your health improves! Take care!
Barb

We will probably be my kid's next door neighbor!

We hope to get a good property management company.

 

[Barb1]

Excellent that you will be next door neighbors with your daughter. We all need someone as we age.
I was my mothers care taker once she couldn't live alone at 87 until she passed at 94.

Now we live with my sister who is 78 and has know one to be with her. She is in pretty good health but she has stage 4 kidney failure and showing early signs of dementia and paranoia. We are getting ready to make a appointment to see a neurologist and a kidney specialist. We only have one other sister in good enough health to help but she will be 76 soon. I am the baby in the family and my oldest sister who is 79 (in a nursing home for the past year and a half because of a stroke) so there is a 16 year age difference between us.

Taking care of my sister helps her and us because we pay a low amount of rent to her. It helps her also because my DH is handy with fixing minor things (day after Xmas he installed a new hot water tank) around the house and we do all yard work. It really is a win win situation for all of us.

I sure am long winded tonight. Your situation just struck a chord because everyone should have someone to count on as they age.

 

[JackieOnLine]

sorry you have having troubles, Spike, and that you will be moving further from me. some day I hope to meet you.

we HATE renting out houses; we seem to be experts at finding normal, responsible people just before they go over the deep end and become unemployed, divorcing, deadbeat ********.

I hate renting but I can see that being a landlord would also suck.

 

[Spiky Bugger]

Excellent that you will be next door neighbors with your daughter. We all need someone as we age.
I was my mothers care taker once she couldn't live alone at 87 until she passed at 94.

Now we live with my sister who is 78 and has know one to be with her. She is in pretty good health but she has stage 4 kidney failure and showing early signs of dementia and paranoia. We are getting ready to make a appointment to see a neurologist and a kidney specialist. We only have one other sister in good enough health to help but she will be 76 soon. I am the baby in the family and my oldest sister who is 79 (in a nursing home for the past year and a half because of a stroke) so there is a 16 year age difference between us.

Taking care of my sister helps her and us because we pay a low amount of rent to her. It helps her also because my DH is handy with fixing minor things (day after Xmas he installed a new hot water tank) around the house and we do all yard work. It really is a win win situation for all of us.

I sure am long winded tonight. Your situation just struck a chord because everyone should have someone to count on as they age.

We don't need our daughter to move into caretaker mode right now...but it will happen eventually. We're at the cardio's right now. If Mr. Sue needs another angiogram, he needs a ride to and from the hospital, and a caregiver capable of waiting for HOURS--or driving back and forth. Usually, I can't do either...my bladder won't allow that much sitting in hard chairs and I can't take all my diuretics when I'm away from home or my Vicodin if I am going to drive... and I feel like I'm abandoning him if I don't sit and wait. So we fly MiniSue up for a day of Daddy Care. It would be so much easier for everyone if we lived "in the back house," or "downstairs," or at least locally.

And they will need us to get Little Bits to school. MiniSue's boyfriend's workday starts at 6:30 a.m. MiniSue will soon be doing shift work...only one of the three shifts will allow her to get the little one to school. So Pretend Grandparents could fill in for short drives. Until we get there, my sister may have to help out!! And my sister may need help. She has a rectocele (google images will help explain that) and will be having surgery soon.

But that IS what family is for, right?

 

[robs477]

Hi...thanks for missing me!
UNFORTUNATELY, we bought this money pit with the notion we would be here a while, and poured a shitload of money into it. So we probably need to rent it out for a few years.

Hi Spiky, good to hear from ya darlin! Did you ever see that movie "The money pit" with Tom Hanks?? Funny as ****, one of my favorite movies and SOOOO GD true, we call our house that all the time. My Wife cant stand watching that movie because it just makes her ill, reminds her of our house. Fortunately, (or unfortunately for me), I'm a "Handyman" and done every kind of construction you can name and done almost all the remodeling myself, BUT, we still have a ton of money in it and will never get it all back out. But, we knew that and just wanted the place to be the way we wanted it for right now, at least. So, yeah, I feel your pain. I think a lot of people are in the same boat. You'll be all right though, you're tough as old boot leather!!

 

[JackieOnLine]

But that IS what family is for, right?

it absolutely is, I not only got to take care of my Mom (and I pity the brother that avoided the whole situation) but I now miss feeling so useful. I mean, I miss her but I also had such a sense of purpose then that I hadn't had before or sense.

*sigh*

 

[Barb1]

@Spiky Bugger Yes exactly! I know our boys will be there for us. Things happen for a reason so I believe you where meant to go back to So Cal.

@JackieOnLine I did some real good things for my mom but I also made mistakes so my sister will benefit because I will not make them again. The sister I am going to be helping as time passes lost her only child quite suddenly in 2004. That will be a story for another day but my niece who was 39 when she passed and my mom are missed so much. There is not a day goes by that we don't mention or talk about one or both. I am also very thankful that my DH of 46 years has been right by my side through it all.