Pre-surgery nesting?

[Larra]

@Amey if you run out of stuff to clean at your house, my light fixtures could use some attention, and I haven't flipped the mattress in ages. Come on over!

 

[Charris]

@Amey if you run out of stuff to clean at your house, my light fixtures could use some attention, and I haven't flipped the mattress in ages. Come on over!

@Larra you know I have been sick over the last three years. I have enough cleaning to keep her busy till this time 2018. I still haven't packed my mother's house up since her death in September 2013. Smh

 

[DianaCox]

Not to be morbid or anything, but if you don't have one, this would be a good time to go to an attorney and get a simple will and medical directives drafted and executed. Not that you will need them, but because everyone SHOULD have them, and this is a good reason to take care of that little piece of unpleasant business.

I am ashamed to say that my DS in 2003 was the impetus to get those document in order for both my husband and me, including putting our house into a trust as well - and we had been married 5 years and still had one child (my son) who was a minor (just for a few more months at that time, but still ...). And as you know, I'm an attorney ... I had no excuse other than avoidance.

 

[DSRIGGS]

Not to be morbid or anything, but if you don't have one, this would be a good time to go to an attorney and get a simple will and medical directives drafted and executed. Not that you will need them, but because everyone SHOULD have them, and this is a good reason to take care of that little piece of unpleasant business.

I am ashamed to say that my DS in 2003 was the impetus to get those document in order for both my husband and me, including putting our house into a trust as well - and we had been married 5 years and still had one child (my son) who was a minor (just for a few more months at that time, but still ...). And as you know, I'm an attorney ... I had no excuse other than avoidance.

We don't have one either and like you I have no good excuse.

 

[Susan in Tennessee]

We do have a will but it was drawn up in Texas many years ago along with a power of attorney. I don't think it has the health care directive though and yes, I've been thinking about this and no, it's not morbid, it's being a responsible adult looking at things in a realistic way. We feel we should talk to a Tennessee lawyer and find out if it would be best to have one drawn up here or if it matters. When we became involved in legal/estate matters in 2011 that dealt with a will that was drawn up in Florida, and the person was living in Texas at the time of death, it was a mess to handle. We were told by the lawyers involved that these states were two of the ones that are the worst states to do estate matters because they had such different rules and wording in things. And trying to probate a Florida worded will in a Texas court was a nightmare. So, Bill and I keep saying we want to get ours changed to Tennessee since this is where we'll be until the end. Thanks for reminding me of this, Diana!

 

[Clematis]

Everyone should have a power of attorney for both health care and financial matters drawn up in the state in which they live and perhaps in the state in which they will have surgery. When I brought my dad (with dementia) from his state to mine, the nursing home said they only recognize in-state POAs. Whether or not this is legally their right, it sort of becomes fact if it's 2 am on a Saturday night and you can;t find a lawyer/judge, your loved one is unconscious and they aren't allowing you, the POA from another state, to make the decision of whether or not to allow a medical procedure. (I also had to redo his DNR in new state.)

 

[Amey]

Good point @DianaCox..... I have added it to the list. Thank you for the advice!

 

[Amey]

We took my granddaughter to the zoo earlier but, are home now. Text anytime.

I texted you.... However I just realized I didn't push send. Ugh! My brain is mush! I'm pushing send now.

 

[Susan in Tennessee]

I texted you.... However I just realized I didn't push send. Ugh! My brain is mush! I'm pushing send now.

Don't you want to kick yourself when you do that? Usually I discover it after I've been fuming over why someone isn't answering me!

 

[Newb]

10 days till surgery... 8 days until we leave to go to Utah. I would be lying if I said I'm not scared or anxious and playing the 'what if' complications game in my head. And I have this compulsive obsession like nesting and feeling like I have to clean and organize and get everything done.... And things that never bothered me before are driving me crazy. Did anybody else go through a nesting phase before surgery?

I did the same thing, I'm one week post op, this is what worked best for me. A bit of high protein food, various types. Clean sheets, and spare clean sheets because I ended up sleeping in a recliner for the first few days. Plenty of clean socks and underwear, laundry is my Achilles heel, I'm constantly 'digging' for clean clothes. Comfy, cotton clothes. I fave existed in sports bras, yoga pants and the shirt type nighthe gowns. That being said, I would take 2 of your most comfortable night clothes with you to the hospital, the gowns choked me and made me itch. Piles 9f pillows at your favorite perch. I've found that I am most comfortable when I am propped up by pillows, instead if lying flat or sitting normally. Floors a bathrooms clean. Clutter gone, dishwasher empty. The rest can wait. I had a crazy list too, I didn't accomplish it all. I'm still here, the things I didn't get to, I will never able to do in a few weeks, or, I could ask for help ( I'm really bad at that). You'll be fine1