The sleeve is a diet with a smaller stomach. If diets don’t work for you, you need malabsorbtion to get the weight off and keep it off. I had my DS 20 years ago and I wish I would have done it sooner! But it is still work. I maintain by eating high protein and low carb. I cope with it long term by giving myself cheat days for holidays and out of town vacations. I know myself. I can’t tolerate never ending deprivation. I can gain weight… It is still a lot easier to gain than lose!
Over time the sleeve gets bigger. I can eat a normal size meal and drink like a normal person. But it will take time to get to that point. At first you have to sip and eat slowly one bite at a time.
I take my supplements twice a day, morning and evening. It is NBD, a habit. I count out/prep my pills twice a month and it takes me about 10 minutes. I always have a list of pills to buy the next time I find a sale. I have a whole cabinet of nothing but supplements.
Overall, I am very healthy and have fewer problems than many people my age. I take no prescription drugs and can still do anything I could do when I was 30. I still walk, run, swim, and do yard/house work.
I think you are considering the RNY? In a standard proximal RNY very little is bypassed and around the 2 year mark your body will adapt and it becomes easier to gain weight. I chose the DS because so much is bypassed that your body can never completely adapt. If you can, keep a real stomach with a pyloric valve. Avoid the pouch! Make sure you read and learn a lot before you make your decision. The idea is to think twice and cut once. Know yourself and know why you are fat and you will be able to chose the correct surgery for you. Once you know what you need, don’t settle for anything else. Don’t worship any surgeon. They are like used car salespeople, selling you on whatever procedure they do. You need to be able to advocate for yourself and get the surgery you need.
20 years ago I had the DS and 9 co-workers also had WLS. 1 DS, me, 1 lap band, and 8 RNY. Fast forward to today and ONE of the RNY people and I are the only average looking old bags. The person who had the lap band never lost anything noticeable and 8 of the RNY folks are still as heavy or heavier than when they had surgery. Choose carefully!