Is Fat acceptance like screwing for chastity?

[ShiftedSanity]

Well..... I hit bottom... with appeals to insurance .... could not seperate work and home.... I failed to pull the trigger the shotgun I was sucking on..... completely snapped under stress of working with the knowledge that at any point I could or woud be fired over my disease and my inability to maintain their goal....
I went off work on mental (but was really my health issues ... because dieing one day at a time living with the hell obesity brought me .... seemed more painful than ending it quick)......

but before the snap

I got nowhere with insurance...was up and down between 370 and 420 ...then work brought me in again...said I was out of compliance. ..made me sign a second last chance agreement..... after 8 months of appeals .... and hidden pressures from work ... i snapped...it was dec 1st 2014

what happened next..... was company changed to Permera ... three months later (and after many mental health sessions) I requested pre op approval....and it went right through..... so I don't recomend my path to anyone.... as it has left me somewhat mentally scarred .....and pretty much financially ruined ...I must say it did test the strength of my marriage and I thank God she has been there with me every step of the way....
How did I get here.... I believe this is where God wanted me and what I was ment to learn....I dont know yet but there must be a plan...because my plan was not working
shifty out

 

[southernlady]

I was RIF'ed because of my weight.

RIF means a Reduction In Force...ie: I was honorably discharged from the military due to my inability to stay below a 25 BMI.

So yes, it cost me a career but if I had not gone on the path I did, I would not be the person I am today.

 

[JackieOnLine]

Shifty, I'm sorry to hear about all that you have been through - too right it is "acceptable" to hate on people of size in this country; people need to do better than this.

 

[ShiftedSanity]

The outward hate I feel makes me think negative things about myself...that it is all my fault or it is my failure that makes me this un appealing person .....in many ways bringing on a self hate.... when I go to work and a co worker glues a hershey kiss on the back of the "special chair" the company was forced to supply me with...... makes me wander what are the true feeling of my co workers ...(this actually happened to me)
my wife says screw them.... but for some reason I let it matter.... fat hate is in hidden snickers and chuckles from the non parties involved.....if you saw a guy tip over a person In a wheelchair with MS you would be outraged..... but poke fun at the fat guy.... smiles and chuckles are almost demanded from the onlookers...
It is the MOST ACCEPTABLE FORM OF DISCRIMINATION ...and one of the hardest diseases to get help for.... it is a misunderstood condition that is concidered controllable with diet alone.....I read somewhere ...only 5% of super obese people will beat this disease with diet and excersize alone....
the odds I can not play 1 in 20...... insanity is dieting.....same thing expecting a different result
ughhh...
Shifty out

 

[newanatomy]

@ShiftedSanity, you are doing so well now with your weight, right? What can you do about the mental scars? How are you coping now? Do you plan to do anything about the discrimination or shaming of fat people? You seem to be a pretty driven individual, can you make a difference?

Hugs to you! You are strong and resourceful.

 

[Munchkin]

My dear Shifted Sanity, with all due respect to your wife, I love you!

 

[ShiftedSanity]

Make difference is not a one man/woman job......its about respect for any and everyone you meet no natter what size, race, religion, ect.....by everybody
i see a councilor on a weekly bases just to deal with my break down. I actually saw her today. But not all people have the ability to this resource. I have promoted surgical options to people of size (my third attemp... two in mexico ending with complications and one 12 hour DS to fix scar issues from those trips... I hope I can inform those that have not lost all hope completely. I still have many mental issues I have to work through myself... so not quite the best poster child for WLS.
I also believe I have lived in a 6 year hostile work environment and need to explore that farther. i need an expert with big ears and long attention span. (ANYONE HAVE ANY RECOMENDATIONS)
I have my demons I am fighting to overcome the scars. But most of all... make a better life for my wife and me (who has been my pillar). As far as spreading the word ...if given any opening by a person of size... I have never felt shy about sharing my information..... some will want it some wont... but coming down from 556 high weight... I believe I have a feel for those suffering with SSO..... I just know I have fought for a long time ..spent a lot of my own money and found myself fighting the same monster over and over only wounding it... now I believe this is my best answer to defeat it...
As far as my weight loss...was told 4 weeks to loose 16 pounds plus operation water gain... im doing well...but I am not interested in weight loss right now....healing and staying on target diet is my focus....I hope that answered your questions.....
I try to be inviting and friendly when dealing with all people......well until I get an assclown flipping me crap..... but thats not weight related...lol
shifty out

 

[newanatomy]

Make difference is not a one man/woman job......its about respect for any and everyone you meet no natter what size, race, religion, ect.....by everybody
i see a councilor on a weekly bases just to deal with my break down. I actually saw her today. But not all people have the ability to this resource. I have promoted surgical options to people of size (my third attemp... two in mexico ending with complications and one 12 hour DS to fix scar issues from those trips... I hope I can inform those that have not lost all hope completely. I still have many mental issues I have to work through myself... so not quite the best poster child for WLS.
I also believe I have lived in a 6 year hostile work environment and need to explore that farther. i need an expert with big ears and long attention span. (ANYONE HAVE ANY RECOMENDATIONS)
I have my demons I am fighting to overcome the scars. But most of all... make a better life for my wife and me (who has been my pillar). As far as spreading the word ...if given any opening by a person of size... I have never felt shy about sharing my information..... some will want it some wont... but coming down from 556 high weight... I believe I have a feel for those suffering with SSO..... I just know I have fought for a long time ..spent a lot of my own money and found myself fighting the same monster over and over only wounding it... now I believe this is my best answer to defeat it...
As far as my weight loss...was told 4 weeks to loose 16 pounds plus operation water gain... im doing well...but I am not interested in weight loss right now....healing and staying on target diet is my focus....I hope that answered your questions.....
I try to be inviting and friendly when dealing with all people......well until I get an assclown flipping me crap..... but thats not weight related...lol
shifty out

This is exactly what I meant! You are already doing all of this. Give yourself the credit you truly deserve. You have and are accomplishing so much. You even have the grace to thank your lovely wife. You are amazing!