En, you misunderstood
I don't know about Dr. Inman's policies etc., but would like to interject just a bit of comment: If the psych clearance requirements include attending three meetings, then it's kind of pointless to expect the psych to sign off before those meetings are done. It would be asking for a lie, right?
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I'm sorry there are so many "hoops" to jump through, but this is about SURVIVAL. Rushing is a very bad idea.
I don't have an issue with his signature. I have an issue that she has to wait till after the meeting to have a signature to prove that she has been at the meeting. To me this starts an important relationship with distrust on the part of one party. If a patient states they have been to a meeting, ask them how they enjoyed it, what they have learned but don't degrade them by asking them to prove they are not lying. I have trust issues and to me having to prove your word for something like that is demeaning, she doesn't care, I just find it a bad way to start a relationship.
I personally have learned so much more from these groups (ignoring the crap information) than I ever did going to the 1 support group that was more of a sales pitch for BA advantage vites and a hip hoorah session for surgery than support.
As for the smoking, I never asked how to fool the tests. We went out and both got scripts for Chantix. We will both be non-smoking for probably three to six months before she ever has the surgery. She's only recently started back so hopefully it will stick this time but I'll tell on her myself if she tries to go in a smoker. You never lie to your doctor, there are reasons for what they have you do. I was just afraid they had a one year no smoke policy or something. That's just too long a delay. I want her to come out of surgery healthy and healing well, therefore, no smoking
You are preaching to the choir. Other people were trying to be helpful with how to spoof things, it's not our way. I didn't respond to those people as it was nice of them to say but not the information I was seeking.
Rush?? First. My surgeon having her go through hoops, dieticians and psych evals only to tell her she wasn't fat enough for the DS but could have an RNY and then refusing to battle insurance on her behalf. Second, I believed she couldn't get the DS without a long battle and I knew she'd be over a BMI of 50 in short order at the rate she was going, I thought it would be quicker to let nature take it's course (it did). Third: Financially handling the psych eval, we got the money and had to wait for the psych appt. The day before the appt, my timing belt went out and we had to wait months for this one (Carmel is a three hour drive). The psych can insist on the meetings but let her get on the waiting list for the surgery in the meantime. Heck, if the wait list is 6 months, she could do 6 support meetings. No one told her it was a requirement or this would have been done long before she met with the psych.
She has been learning and waiting for years now thanks to my surgeon and his methods. There is no rush, there is just the light at the end of the tunnel now and the idea of unnecessary delay is too much for her.
No one is this house is trying to be underhanded or unhealthy.
Thank you for caring tho!!!!