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brooklyngirl

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Hey guys, so I was hoping some of you would have some advice on something I could do for my best friend who's beloved dog just passed. I know people deal with this kind of thing everyday, unfortunately, but she's had way too many big losses in the past few months and I'm very worried about her and don't know what to do from 800 miles away. Her mom passed in September, and she had a miscarriage in December, and then their fur baby got diagnosed with cancer a few weeks ago. I was on the phone with her for the last hour and a half while she tried to race home to meet her husband at the vet since he took a turn for the worse this morning and he passed right before she pulled up in front of the door. She's obviously in hysterics and I just want to DO something. Especially since she's said that after the past few months she doesn't feel like she can ever feel happiness again. Any suggestions?
 
Oh, bless her sweet heart!! I had a period of time like that-- totaled my car, had a miscarriage, and then lost my mom all in 6 months. I'd say send her something--flowers, a care package of things that make you think of her, gift certificates for a night out, something engraved with a symbol that stands for your love & presence, a canvas with a special quote -- what ever you do, include a card. Words from people who care mean the most! It was really important to me that people acknowledge my pain and reach out to me.
 
A card is surprisingly meaningful and helpful. Call her later today even if you end up leaving a message. Call again tomorrow. Knowing that people understand her loss and care about her can help.
 
Thanks ladies, I sent a mini bamboo since they're for good luck and she can certainly use some these days. I'm trying to see if I can get a gift card to one of their fav restaurants or the nail salon on their block. I just wish I could do something to change her luck. She's one of those people who are just so good inside, always giving to others, and she has the shittiest luck of anyone I've ever know, and we've been friends for over 20 years.
 
If you're going to send a gift card, I'd suggest one for something that they can do together, like the favorite restaurant. Having a special couple's time/date would be good, I'd think.
 
If you can afford the gift card or something like that, it would be nice, but if your budget is tight, it doesn't matter, just send a card. I know it seems simple, but I have been through a few bad years and just hearing or seeing the words that lets her know you are thinking about her and care really make a difference. It hardly matters what you say on the cards, it's more that you bothered to send or say SOMEthing.
 
A handwritten note is the best in my opinion. Just to let your friend know that you are remembering their loss and keeping them in your thoughts. Simple and heartfelt.
 
Just wrie her a letter telling her how much her happiness means to you and how this pin will ease in time. I wish I knew why **** travel in tees butit bloody well does.
 
omg. My heart breaks for her :( I would send her a letter which included a voucher for the cinema or something....a little something to take her mind off things, but that she can do with her partner and has to leave the house to do. Will keep your friend in thoughts and that's a seriously ****** 6 months :( It HAS to start getting better!
 


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