Megange1
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I'm having an issue with my best friend over my DS surgery and I was wondering if anyone has any advice. We have been friends for years and I'm her Maid of Honor for her wedding next year. She battles weight issues as well and told me before surgery that she was honestly jealous and as unfair as it sounded, she was upset that I'd be getting skinny during her wedding year. Since my surgery my recovery has been hard and she's really been pulling away. When I asked her about it, she told me that she's having a lot of trouble feeling sorry for me during my recovery because I chose to do this. I feel like I'm losing my best friend and it's awful. I know she's trying, but her whole attitude is that I made the easy choice and this whole thing is going to be easy. I know it's not going to be fast or easy because this is my second surgery, and the weight doesn't magically come off. It is a hard and long journey and you do need support from your friends. Now I'm just sad because I feel like I can't be honest with my best friend when I'm having hard days, but I also want to be sensitive to her feelings. How did people handle friendships changing after surgery?