Spiky Bugger
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The child is nine. And a bit of a Drama Llama. (When we remind her it doesn’t work here and she’s busted...we all laugh and she stops.)
But Mommy, aka “MiniSue’s Significant Other’s ex-wife” is the issue. The parents, Mommy and Daddy, have every other week custody. But Mommy not only USES the child as a BFF, she “visits” her at school during Daddy’s custody week.
And we learn that:
•Mommy likes me best because she brings me Starbuck’s hot cocoa to my before school program, after Daddy drops me off and goes to work. Daddy only gives me things like cereal or bacon for breakfast.
•Mommy works so hard and she’s ALL ALONE. Daddy has [MiniSue], but Mommy is ALL ALONE.
•Tom is Mommy’s boss and she needs to get a different job because he’s so mean. But she has to stay there now to make money and do all the work herself.
•Mommy HAD a boyfriend. But he said mean things to her. And you can’t know the future, so she didn’t know that would happen. But that’s why she cries. That and because she’s alone.
•Mommy takes me to plays and musicals (Mommy was a Theater Major...and enrolls the kid in EVERY local theater program...I want her in STEM/STEAM or Chinese or Spanish Language Immersion, but she’s not my kid...or grandkid...or step-anything), but Daddy only takes me to movies and on trips, but not plays and they cost more.
•When I get sick, Mommy takes me to the doctor and SHE HAS TO PAY every time. Daddy doesn’t take me, so he doesn’t pay. (YOU explain co-pays vs monthly premiums to a kid. Most adults don’t understand.). (I didn’t try. I just told her that Mommy and Daddy got help from an expert on such things on what would be fair...and they both pay to make sure she gets medical care. Mommy pays when they go. But Daddy pays, too.)
I would like to discuss this with Mommy...over the hood of her car in the parking lot when there are not witnesses. Not only is this child abuse...it is a HUGE NEON SIGN that Mommy needs psych help.
Daddy doesn’t want to confront Mommy because, he says, she’ll argue with him, nothing will change and she will yell at the kid for ratting her out.
Can I beat her up? Can I just say, “Look, Mommy! What I see...what others will see, what the kid will eventually see...is a 40-something woman so desperate for comforting that she is asking a CHILD to console her, lying to that child about her father, undermining the father’s authority, and trying to BUY the child’s love, so that the kid is in the position of caring for her needy mother. Which makes you a C__T. “
You guys cool with that?
But Mommy, aka “MiniSue’s Significant Other’s ex-wife” is the issue. The parents, Mommy and Daddy, have every other week custody. But Mommy not only USES the child as a BFF, she “visits” her at school during Daddy’s custody week.
And we learn that:
•Mommy likes me best because she brings me Starbuck’s hot cocoa to my before school program, after Daddy drops me off and goes to work. Daddy only gives me things like cereal or bacon for breakfast.
•Mommy works so hard and she’s ALL ALONE. Daddy has [MiniSue], but Mommy is ALL ALONE.
•Tom is Mommy’s boss and she needs to get a different job because he’s so mean. But she has to stay there now to make money and do all the work herself.
•Mommy HAD a boyfriend. But he said mean things to her. And you can’t know the future, so she didn’t know that would happen. But that’s why she cries. That and because she’s alone.
•Mommy takes me to plays and musicals (Mommy was a Theater Major...and enrolls the kid in EVERY local theater program...I want her in STEM/STEAM or Chinese or Spanish Language Immersion, but she’s not my kid...or grandkid...or step-anything), but Daddy only takes me to movies and on trips, but not plays and they cost more.
•When I get sick, Mommy takes me to the doctor and SHE HAS TO PAY every time. Daddy doesn’t take me, so he doesn’t pay. (YOU explain co-pays vs monthly premiums to a kid. Most adults don’t understand.). (I didn’t try. I just told her that Mommy and Daddy got help from an expert on such things on what would be fair...and they both pay to make sure she gets medical care. Mommy pays when they go. But Daddy pays, too.)
I would like to discuss this with Mommy...over the hood of her car in the parking lot when there are not witnesses. Not only is this child abuse...it is a HUGE NEON SIGN that Mommy needs psych help.
Daddy doesn’t want to confront Mommy because, he says, she’ll argue with him, nothing will change and she will yell at the kid for ratting her out.
Can I beat her up? Can I just say, “Look, Mommy! What I see...what others will see, what the kid will eventually see...is a 40-something woman so desperate for comforting that she is asking a CHILD to console her, lying to that child about her father, undermining the father’s authority, and trying to BUY the child’s love, so that the kid is in the position of caring for her needy mother. Which makes you a C__T. “
You guys cool with that?