You have lost so much weight!

[newanatomy]

I put these on my FB page to show family and friends how much different I look and feel in the after. My caption said which one looks healthy and happier? All the comments from the women said was " We loved you no matter the size". My point was I did this for my health and quality of life. I don't think they see it that way at all! They think I took the easy way out instead of changing my eating pattern. I meant to post these so I could show Sue @Spiky Bugger my batwings but I never posted them .@newanatomy's post struck a nerve for me. It is the men in my husbands family that give me compliments.

You look great in both! I admire your bravery!

 

[brooklyngirl]

I have not kept my surgery a "secret". I just like to choose when/how to discuss it. Even on my best day, I would be uncomfortable having my appearance dissected at a dinner party. Shame is still a difficult thing to give up as is pride.

I totally agree, and I struggle with handling these situations and feelings myself. Just wondering if some of the "**** off" type responses that some others suggested would make people whisper even more. I still don't know what my ideal response is, it fluctuates depending on my mood, my level of sensitivity and my perception of the other person's motives.

 

[newanatomy]

I totally agree, and I struggle with handling these situations and feelings myself. Just wondering if some of the "**** off" type responses that some others suggested would make people whisper even more. I still don't know what my ideal response is, it fluctuates depending on my mood, my level of sensitivity and my perception of the other person's motives.

Yes, me too to all of the above. **** off, was really not an option for me in this situation. It is a smallish town and these people are people we will see over and over again. Plus, the hosts of the party would have died a thousand deaths if I said that to the wife of his former boss. It is an intricate/delicate web. Has to be handled carefully.

 

[Sheanie]

I've had a woman tell me in a large group "You weren't THAT FAT, you didn't even NEED weight loss surgery". So I pulled up my highest weight photograph I own, which just happened to be on the groups web page. In it, I'm sitting next to a woman who is near 7 feet tall, we are both seated. I am larger than her, and I'm 5'3". She just stared at it, then said that same thing over again.

Some people you just can't argue with. They are THAT stupid. They will cling to their opinion just as firmly, no matter what you do or say.

BTW, this same woman? Had the sleeve a year later. She had T2D symptoms (which she denied) and HBP, high cholesterol, triglycerides, and the beginning of heart failure. I recently saw her in the grocery store. She has no hair. THEN, I recalled that she once told me she ate oatmeal for the protein. So there you go. Stupid people.

 

[newanatomy]

I've had a woman tell me in a large group "You weren't THAT FAT, you didn't even NEED weight loss surgery". So I pulled up my highest weight photograph I own, which just happened to be on the groups web page. In it, I'm sitting next to a woman who is near 7 feet tall, we are both seated. I am larger than her, and I'm 5'3". She just stared at it, then said that same thing over again.

Some people you just can't argue with. They are THAT stupid. They will cling to their opinion just as firmly, no matter what you do or say.

BTW, this same woman? Had the sleeve a year later. She had T2D symptoms (which she denied) and HBP, high cholesterol, triglycerides, and the beginning of heart failure. I recently saw her in the grocery store. She has no hair. THEN, I recalled that she once told me she ate oatmeal for the protein. So there you go. Stupid people.

I have a friend who is quite a bit older than I am, a different generation. She really can not grasp what a carb is, what's a protein. When my sister told her she didn't drink because she was an alcoholic, she said "Oh, I can get you a beer or a glass of wine instead of alcohol". She once told me that her mother and brother were diagnosed with pre-diabetes but they never got it because they refused to allow that. That's it! They willed it away. Ugh!

 

[JackieOnLine]

Barb, you look fantastic!!

 

[Barb1]

@Sheanie You reminded me of this and this to funny!

 

[robs477]

I put these on my FB page to show family and friends how much different I look and feel in the after. My caption said which one looks healthy and happier? All the comments from the women said was " We loved you no matter the size". My point was I did this for my health and quality of life. I don't think they see it that way at all! They think I took the easy way out instead of changing my eating pattern. I meant to post these so I could show Sue @Spiky Bugger my batwings but I never posted them .@newanatomy's post struck a nerve for me. It is the men in my husbands family that give me compliments.

Barb, I got busy and was gonna respond and tell you how great you looked and congratulations! I always enjoy your posts too!