You have lost so much weight!

[newanatomy]

@newanatomy, yeah, you’re a Woman, you know what she was trying to do…B**CH! She was just trying to “Punk” on you in front of everyone. My 2 cent opinion from being an observer of “Human nature” for 56 years is that, well over half, (and I’m probably being too kind) of the people saying things and asking questions are nosy, jealous and envious. A lot of people LOVE to see others fail and hate to see others succeed, especially where they have failed…and that’s just the way it is. BUT…YOU remained a Lady, and I think that is way more punishment to her. People like that that have to make themselves feel good by making others appear bad are miserable, so, you did the right thing!!

@kirmy.....you crack me the F up!

You are right Rob, she was just making sure that everyone knew I used to be at least 100 pounds heavier. She never really asked any thing. She just kept going on and on about how much I had to have lost. It is a bitchy, passively aggressive move.

 

[Spiky Bugger]

You are right Rob, she was just making sure that everyone knew I used to be at least 100 pounds heavier. She never really asked any thing. She just kept going on and on about how much I had to have lost. It is a bitchy, passively aggressive move.

Reminds me of the time, I was maybe 25-years-old, I went to a cop-hosted work-related party. Not too many young women there. But LOTS of guys. My kind of place. One of my coworkers, Linda the Bitch, who was really gorgeous but spent her entire work day checking her mascara and touching up her lipstick, was surrounded by a group of those guys. I approached, because I recognized her. Some of the guys looked in MY direction. That's when Linda said, "Oh, Sue! You look so nice, I didn't recognize you."

WTF was THAT all about??!??

(And there WAS no response from me, because men are so dense, I'm sure they all thought she was being nice.)

 

[newanatomy]

Women can be so horrible to each other! We need to learn to build each other up and truly support each other. I am not competing with her on any level. She can afford to be nice.

 

[Elizabeth N.]

Hmmm, what a bitch.

I suppose it's remotely possible that she could have been so socially deaf and blind that she didn't "get it." But you would probably already know that about her if it were the case.

I pretty much never encounter that kind of situation, because my story is that I'd be dead today without WLS and that is a whole different ball of wax. But I think if I had been in your shoes, I would have been tempted to respond with something like what Kirmy said! Or possibly a less picturesque but similarly ultra-obvious change of subject, like a slightly-too-loud, "Incredible weather we've been having lately! Did you see the latest blizzard reports?".....With my patented EN stare, the one that has a fangs-bared smile attached.

 

[newanatomy]

I don't have a good read on her yet. I have been at several of the same functions as she has and she volunteered at the art museum while I was a board member but, we have never really had too many conversations. Her husband is a big wig and I don't know if they normally socialize with his subordinates, giving her a sense of power through that, or not. I just don't know enough about them. They are coming, with two other couples, to my house for dinner in February. I will try a little harder to figure her out then. Plus, I will be more prepared for any back handed insults.

 

[robs477]

They are coming, with two other couples, to my house for dinner in February. I will try a little harder to figure her out then. Plus, I will be more prepared for any back handed insults.

Wow, that ought to be an interesting night! Dinner and a show..lol, wish I could get tickets to see that!

 

[robs477]

Women can be so horrible to each other! We need to learn to build each other up and truly support each other. I am not competing with her on any level. She can afford to be nice.

SOOO true, men can talk **** to each other openly, make fun, insult etc, tell each other they're ******** and have a beer afterwards and laugh about it, most of the time, not always. But you ladies wheeew, that’s a whole other story. MOST all the women I know can’t stand each other and get along better with their male friends. It’s even bad with moms and daughters too sometimes.

 

[Sue]

SOOO true, men can talk **** to each other openly, make fun, insult etc, tell each other they're ******** and have a beer afterwards and laugh about it, most of the time, not always. But you ladies wheeew, that’s a whole other story. MOST all the women I know can’t stand each other and get along better with their male friends. It’s even bad with moms and daughters too sometimes.

Holy ****!!! I think I have too much testosterone because I hate catttty bitchy backstabbing ways some women are. Guys just punch each other out-thing are funking fantastic. I used to work in a lumber store while I was going through college was the only female AND I LIKED IT!!!! @Spiky Bugger I know what you mean. @newanatomy that is for dam sure, witches and *******, most from jealousy. No one better ask me that question, because I would have said : oh I feel so ******* fabulous since my sex reassignment surgery is finally complete and walk away. That should give them a hint.

 

[Elizabeth N.]

SOOO true, men can talk **** to each other openly, make fun, insult etc, tell each other they're ******** and have a beer afterwards and laugh about it, most of the time, not always. But you ladies wheeew, that’s a whole other story. MOST all the women I know can’t stand each other and get along better with their male friends. It’s even bad with moms and daughters too sometimes.

Yup, I vastly prefer the company of men. The fact that I've made some women friends through the DS is an anomaly for me.

 

[newanatomy]

Wow, that ought to be an interesting night! Dinner and a show..lol, wish I could get tickets to see that!

I will be able to hang out with her, no problem. I just doubt we will ever be BFF's. I am still not 100% sure she meant to be insulting, she may just be dense but, I lean toward the bitchy side of speculation. Time will out. I didn't even mean to invite her and her hubby, she just included herself when she heard another woman and I discussing having diner at each other's houses. So, as usual, it turned into a dinner a month rotating houses between the 4 couples. I'm up first.

 

[Sheanie]

@newanatomy , I pride myself at being able to be friends with MOST anyone. There are a select few I have given up on. One woman in particular is such a bully in groups she is hated by many. She is very vocally against WLS, is SMO and has many health issues from that. She took every chance to poke at me throughout my DS journey. Bad mouthed me behind my back. Started a campaign against WLS with me as an example. It all backfired on her during the next 5 years, as I've kept my weight off and she's deteriorated. Two members of our group HAD WLS, lost weight. She didn't.

Jealous ******* are what they are. Don't waste your time trying to understand her motives. Even if she explained them, chances are you wouldn't understand them anyway. But I'd be putting some marbles in my medicine cabinet, just for her, before your dinner party. And I've got some ideas for sneaky **** you can pull on her, if you want. LOL

 

[duh_Mom]

Lord Help, I can't stand people and yes it is usually women - like this. I really like the OMG, did you really just ask me that? I thought it was very cool NewAnatomy that you are very kind and considerate about her cancer diagnosis and reconstruction surgery. Reckon how she would like it if you pointed that out to someone else at the party.

 

[brooklyngirl]

Am I the only one that thinks if you react that way then you're giving said ******* a reason to believe you're embarrassed, and therefore contributing to the idea that it's something to hide and be shameful about? Or am I, as usual, thinking too deeply

 

[Barb1]

I put these on my FB page to show family and friends how much different I look and feel in the after. My caption said which one looks healthy and happier? All the comments from the women said was " We loved you no matter the size". My point was I did this for my health and quality of life. I don't think they see it that way at all! They think I took the easy way out instead of changing my eating pattern. I meant to post these so I could show Sue @Spiky Bugger my batwings but I never posted them .@newanatomy's post struck a nerve for me. It is the men in my husbands family that give me compliments.

 

[newanatomy]

Am I the only one that thinks if you react that way then you're giving said ******* a reason to believe you're embarrassed, and therefore contributing to the idea that it's something to hide and be shameful about? Or am I, as usual, thinking too deeply

I have not kept my surgery a "secret". I just like to choose when/how to discuss it. Even on my best day, I would be uncomfortable having my appearance dissected at a dinner party. Shame is still a difficult thing to give up as is pride.