Spiky Bugger
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Six months ago, I kind of "broke up" with my BFF of 50+ years. I wasn't TOO ugly about it and
I did it for self-preservation.
BFF had been dealing with lung cancer, chemo--and probably just having cancer and being pissed about it--was making her really, really, hateful. And, the kind of lung cancer she has generally goes to the brain next, so maybe she was just being a hateful bitch because the cancer was already there...I don't know.
Her husband was putting up with non-stop snarling abuse. Her daughter, who lives 1000 miles away, was not as much a victim as she has been a witness to it all...and she described her mother as "mean as a snake." When I became a target, I voiced my complaints and ended my missive with "Thank you for 50 years of a great friendship, but let's just cut our losses here and remember what a good friendship it WAS instead of what it has become and what it will likely turn into."
She wrote a little over a week ago. She asked me to call because she is dying and wanted to say goodbye and she loves me. I did and we had a nice conversation. She is, believe it or not, STILL saying hateful things about her husband...the only person on the planet who is there 24/7 taking care of her. She even tells him she hopes he gets cancer next. Ugly.
I'm sad that she is dying. I hope she is not in much pain...she says she is not. If the cancer got to her brain and is causing this, I'm sorry that I am not inclined to allow her to verbally abuse me because we can't get that six months back. OTOH, if it would be six months under her choreography, it might have been a bad idea to endure that. I dunno.
Anyway...I has a sad.
(Tell you what, though...if I end up with the same dx...I can't see that chemo did a single positve thing for her...and think I might pass on spending maybe an extra year alive...sick, weak and meaner than a snake. I'm delighted I'm in a state that just passed this law... http://www.latimes.com/local/political/la-me-pc-gov-brown-end-of-life-bill-20151005-story.html )
I did it for self-preservation.
BFF had been dealing with lung cancer, chemo--and probably just having cancer and being pissed about it--was making her really, really, hateful. And, the kind of lung cancer she has generally goes to the brain next, so maybe she was just being a hateful bitch because the cancer was already there...I don't know.
Her husband was putting up with non-stop snarling abuse. Her daughter, who lives 1000 miles away, was not as much a victim as she has been a witness to it all...and she described her mother as "mean as a snake." When I became a target, I voiced my complaints and ended my missive with "Thank you for 50 years of a great friendship, but let's just cut our losses here and remember what a good friendship it WAS instead of what it has become and what it will likely turn into."
She wrote a little over a week ago. She asked me to call because she is dying and wanted to say goodbye and she loves me. I did and we had a nice conversation. She is, believe it or not, STILL saying hateful things about her husband...the only person on the planet who is there 24/7 taking care of her. She even tells him she hopes he gets cancer next. Ugly.
I'm sad that she is dying. I hope she is not in much pain...she says she is not. If the cancer got to her brain and is causing this, I'm sorry that I am not inclined to allow her to verbally abuse me because we can't get that six months back. OTOH, if it would be six months under her choreography, it might have been a bad idea to endure that. I dunno.
Anyway...I has a sad.
(Tell you what, though...if I end up with the same dx...I can't see that chemo did a single positve thing for her...and think I might pass on spending maybe an extra year alive...sick, weak and meaner than a snake. I'm delighted I'm in a state that just passed this law... http://www.latimes.com/local/political/la-me-pc-gov-brown-end-of-life-bill-20151005-story.html )
