Brandy
Freddled gruntbuggly
I was at the mall yesterday and saw a very heavy teenager. She was hanging out with her two skinny friends and they were buying clothes while the fat chick was joking around. When I was her age I used to think if I couldn't be pretty, I had better be funny. Also, when I was her age WLS was not the same thing as it is now. I started thinking of the odds of anybody losing large amounts of weight by themselves and I wanted to reach out to her.
I wanted to tell her to get the surgery done now while she heals more quickly. While she was on her parents insurance and didn't have to worry about making a living. To fix things so she didn't have to graduate from high school or college (or whatever) not being considered normal and pretty. And I know that is a really mean take on things, but I don't think any really fat person thinks that all other things being equal, life is easier on them.
I didn't say anything to her. I wasn't sure how to approach or what words to say. I didn't want to hurt her, especially since she had obviously reminded me of myself and it was my issues that were in my mind. Although I think there was enough compassion to see me through. But I do wonder, do you guys evangelize the surgery to strangers in person? What words have you found that worked?
Thanks!
I wanted to tell her to get the surgery done now while she heals more quickly. While she was on her parents insurance and didn't have to worry about making a living. To fix things so she didn't have to graduate from high school or college (or whatever) not being considered normal and pretty. And I know that is a really mean take on things, but I don't think any really fat person thinks that all other things being equal, life is easier on them.
I didn't say anything to her. I wasn't sure how to approach or what words to say. I didn't want to hurt her, especially since she had obviously reminded me of myself and it was my issues that were in my mind. Although I think there was enough compassion to see me through. But I do wonder, do you guys evangelize the surgery to strangers in person? What words have you found that worked?
Thanks!