Five year surgiversary...the good the bad and the mole rats

[kirmy]

kirmy, you are such an inspiration. i know this sounds cliched, but ever since i started researching the DS, I'd come across your posts ..and reading them was comforting. it made me feel like i could do this too..it's hard to explain. there was strength, honesty and vulnerability in your descriptions of your struggles and triumphs...you would make an excellent writer. i have a few of your hilarious and uplifting posts bookmarked, so i can read them when i worry (however irrationally) that I may not be able to stay true to my first love which is travel..or do X or Y,..enjoy life or what have you after the DS. post-Ds has its own set of complications and difficulties, but you have always struck me as someone who has all this joie de vivre ...that has only been enhanced by this life changing surgery. it makes me feel less nervous going ahead with the DS. thanks for the heart, the rapier wit, the laughs and for sharing your journey so openly and open heartedly. i am just pre-op, and we've never talked one on one. i just wanted to let you know on your half a decade surgiversary..that you've made a difference in my little world...even from a distance.

i want to congratulate you on your success and wish you continued success. here's to a 10 year update and counting.

p.s. you are gorgeous, and i love the haircut. i haven't had a pixie cut in years. though, i did get awesome red highlights last year. now, they've sort of faded..and my hair is a tricoloured mess- black (my natural colour), the faded light brown and a few streaks of red.

i am planning on getting a cute side shave post-DS: http://hairstyle15.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/10/short-female-haircuts-image.jpg - something like that hehe. i am excited.

That is hugely flattering. The thing is I'm a mammoth cluster fuck. I try to do better but I am essentially a sweary Bridget Jones. To know I've positively influenced anyone is phenomenal to me.

Thank you. Good luck and be fearless on your journey.

 

[kirmy]

Your story is very inspirational and I'm excited to take this DS journey shortly. You are beautiful! Love your sense of humor. Congratulations on all your success!!

Good luck on your journey. Exercise and supplement. Keep your muscle mass and get into positive routines. X

 

[kirmy]

I'm just heading to sodding work but you can tweet assured I'll get some good loving in two weeks time.

Happy surgiversary, Kirmy....you are an awesome person and tell David to give you a hug from Charles and I.

 

[kirmy]

I love the list, and you look terrific! Posts like these are just what I need as a new post op.

Just keep plodding. I recognised that I was going to be sick post op i.e feel like I'd been hit by a bus. So I took each day as it came with little achievable goals like drinking, snacking every hour, walking, sleeping etc. this stood me in good stead so the hard bits were not so awful and unexpected.

You will take an upwards trajectory.

 

[Barb1]

Happy surgiversary, Kirmy you really are a inspiration! I think your flaws and faults show just how human you are! I love your way with words! I alsonwish I could look half as good with my hair that short. With my nose and ears I would look like a cross between Dumbo and Pinocchio!

 

[kirmy]

Happy surgiversary, Kirmy you really are a inspiration! I think your flaws and faults show just how human you are! I love your way with words! I alsonwish I could look half as good with my hair that short. With my nose and ears I would look like a cross between Dumbo and Pinocchio!

You are beautiful. Look at the sunshine in your smile. I reckon you could light up the room without trying.

 

[brooklyngirl]

Congrats Kirmy! You rock in many ways and you're always an inspiration to our community, no matter how sweary Bridget Jones-ish you are

 

[jillc]

Kirmy - you're stunning. I hope that I can achieve the success you have.
I lived in Manchester for a decade and well remember the taunts that you learn to ignore. I remember when I first moved there (a super-polite Canadian - what can I say I was young and stupid). I was working in a pub and had been there for about a week:
"You're a big girl aren't you?"
I almost burst into tear at that mild comment lol. I didn't know that is was mild at the time though.
I sharpened my tongue over the years though!
Love your list.

 

[Munchkin]

kirmy, you are such an inspiration. i know this sounds cliched, but ever since i started researching the DS, I'd come across your posts ..and reading them was comforting. it made me feel like i could do this too..it's hard to explain. there was strength, honesty and vulnerability in your descriptions of your struggles and triumphs...you would make an excellent writer. i have a few of your hilarious and uplifting posts bookmarked, so i can read them when i worry (however irrationally) that I may not be able to stay true to my first love which is travel..or do X or Y,..enjoy life or what have you after the DS. post-Ds has its own set of complications and difficulties, but you have always struck me as someone who has all this joie de vivre ...that has only been enhanced by this life changing surgery. it makes me feel less nervous going ahead with the DS. thanks for the heart, the rapier wit, the laughs and for sharing your journey so openly and open heartedly. i am just pre-op, and we've never talked one on one. i just wanted to let you know on your half a decade surgiversary..that you've made a difference in my little world...even from a distance.

i want to congratulate you on your success and wish you continued success. here's to a 10 year update and counting.

p.s. you are gorgeous, and i love the haircut. i haven't had a pixie cut in years. though, i did get awesome red highlights last year. now, they've sort of faded..and my hair is a tricoloured mess- black (my natural colour), the faded light brown and a few streaks of red.

i am planning on getting a cute side shave post-DS: http://hairstyle15.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/10/short-female-haircuts-image.jpg - something like that hehe. i am excited.

I don't know why I tell you about Indian things. Sorry! My secret is henna! It's amazing and cheap! Good for your hair and scalp too. Much healthier than all those chemicals!

 

[Munchkin]

Happy New Year Kirmy! Enjoy every minute!

 

[star0210]

You truly are quite stunning. You have very striking features. I think you're beautiful. You were before as well.
Congratulations on a successful 5 yrs!

 

[hilary1617]

Congratulations! May the next five years bring health and happiness and even more of #14. I love how you embrace life and take no prisoners.

 

[Honeybeeblue]

It's been five years tomorrow since my 11.5hr marathon operation happened. I have changed beyond recognition on every front. I am still however at core me. I have grieved, moved on, dwelled when I shouldn't, revisited old pain and earned some new ones. I've also kicked arses and taken names. I have developed a massive ego then got rid of it. Became aware of my enormous self importance then kicked myself in the cooter for such arrogance and ignorance. I've been hormonal, asexual, mature, immature, wise, stupid etc etc.

I know that my future happiness revolves around managing the DS appropriately. The transformation however is staggering.

I made a list because I wanted to remind myself how transforming this surgery is:

1. I will live without a physical disability
2. No one knows I was ever fat
3. No one yells abuse at me out of cars or follows me around shopping centres making comments about my food
4. Shop assistant don't act like Godzilla is marauding though the shop and heading for skinny girl clothes
5. the adjective that strangers use to describe me upon first glance is slim...followed by bat shit crazy
6. I have created a very lucrative career in a male dominated industry and make my way on my own terms. I'm fierce ROOOOAAARRRR
7. I think I'm pretty much ok
8. I tell life sucking soul vampires to kiss my naked mole rat
9. I am supple, fit and agile although I still break shit because I'm still an idiot
10. I dance like no one is looking but of course they are looking because who is that idiot dancing?
11. My lowest weight was ( I think from memory) a tiny and fragile 136lbs or 9.8 stones or 62.5kgs. I looked terminal admittedly. Damn that was small!. My settled weight turned out to be around 147lbs or 67kgs. I have since gained up to 70-72kgs depending on the poo.
12. Despite a small regain I feel in control of my life
13. I have lost my Father and am grieving yet it doesn't seem like life is overwhelming or I'm defeated. Before it would be just another nail in the coffin.
14. I love and get love. I think that is right.
15. Calcium still continues to be a battle for me. My PTH goes up and down like a yo yo and I get disheartened. I keep persisting and trying to beat this one.

So now photo porn.
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I'm so proud of my Surgery choice. I will endeavour to make my health a priority not an after thought.

Happy New Year to all.
Kirstin aka Kirmy

You look absolutely gorgeous. You are a inspiration that after many years of work you can still make this tool work and succeed.

 

[kirmy]

Wow guys a massive thanks for your loving and giving words. That is truly wonderful. Yay to you lot!!!

 

[JackieOnLine]

well, WTH, I thought I commented on this back the first time I saw it. dunno what's going on, did my brain go into hibernation from the lack of sun?

you look FANTASTIC so much so it almost goes without saying & yet we need to say it. congratulations on all you have done, cluster fuck or not, life can be hard hard hard but the important thing is you look GOOD!!!

<<< young chick with hot car "good" and, as always, I love reading your posts because you write so fun.