The crippling thing about growing up poor that stays with you forever

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Slightly depressing, but interesting. I found the Traci Mann part particularly interesting.
 
Certainly interesting. Thanks for sharing. It seems to be past deprivation informing current savings, if you will.
 
Good article! I have always believed this to be true. People who have been poor enough to actually go hungry will almost always eat. Just because food is there and available. Then the issues of the people in the middle. Clean your plate because there are starving children in...wherever.
 
Then the issues of the people in the middle. Clean your plate because there are starving children in...wherever.
Yeah...a mentality that is VERY hard to break. I didn't grow up dirt poor...I mean my parents (then just my Mother as she and daddy divorced and he seldom paid ANY child support) always had food on the table but it wasn't always the best choices. Very carb heavy as potatoes and pastas and rice were cheap...esp made into casseroles to stretch them.
 
One of my favourite Cracked.com articles (he has a few on his childhood poverty) is about this:

http://www.cracked.com/blog/the-5-stupidest-habits-you-develop-growing-up-poor/
Another great article! My mom was frugal. I still remember the first time I tasted a fresh green bean...I thought there was something wrong with it! But I can't remember her ever fixing mac and cheese from a box. I had that for the first time as an adult. Mom was a RN and very aware of nutrition. She cooked and made almost everything from scratch.

My and my sister's whole childhood was a diet. We were always hungry and very resentful. Yup, we saw all the neighborhood kids eating all kinds of delicious crap while our snacks were celery and carrot sticks. We planned out holidays like fiends looking for our next fix. And anything 'good' we got was hidden. We learned fast if we didn't hide our Halloween candy, it would be gone. Mom would tell us we didn't need any of it because we were fat!

It's probably a good thing I never had kids. I swore to myself I would let them eat as they pleased! For years I thought I was fat because I wasn't allowed to have 'normal' foods. But that wasn't right. Seriously, a kid who is breastfed and gets the first diet at 6 weeks old, was doomed from the start!
 
Very thought-provoking article. Poverty is only part of it. Lower SE households have more stress, the parents are more often depressed and have understandable rage at working so many hours and not having money after expenses. Most parents who are poor do as much as they can to provide for their children first and show love and support to them, but I think it is harder and truly heroic if they can pull it off without the kids feeling their stress. There are fat kids from wealthy families and I wonder if they suffer the same feelings of isolation with poor parenting despite having a full refrigerator. I grew up in a family of 6 kids, with only one parent working, and more money went to alcohol than food. My mother added rice to milk to lower the cost and she told me as an adult she did it so we would be quiet. They were both children of abusive parents and continued the family tradition with us. We were teased about our hand-me-downs at school and embarrassed to have other kids come to our house. Food can be a replacement for the satisfaction a child might get from self esteem and spending some time one-on-one with an adult who loves you and knows how to show it. Being lonely, ignored, and abused leaves a huge hole and food might be the only pleasure available. I agree that not having enough food makes you more likely to eat when it is available and ignore stop-eating cues and that more poor kids have poor-protein, poor-nutrition diets. But I think it is more complicated that just lack of money. Even this study showed that high SE kids exhibited some of the same behavior as low SE kids, jut in different proportions, and that some lower SE kids did as well as higher SE kids. Poor parenting crosses all SE boundaries (as obesity does) but combining poor parenting and abuse with food shortages truly never leaves you, even after a successful DS.
 
One of my favourite Cracked.com articles (he has a few on his childhood poverty) is about this:

http://www.cracked.com/blog/the-5-stupidest-habits-you-develop-growing-up-poor/
Yep, I see myself to some degree. And my husband. I liked the pictures as much as the text. I think I may have forty some dollars and some change in my wallet. It really does feel better than knowing its contents to the penny.

I grew up poor enough to do those stupid things, but not so desperately poor I do them to the degree he describes. True confession: Yesterday I had a severe craving for a mystery meat patty breaded and fried in deep fat. I would kill for the fruits and vegetables canned or frozen by Mom and Grandma. They gardened. Grandpa raised a cow just for slaughtering and rented a meat locker. But I swear, as God is my witness, I will never eat Velveeta again.
 
But I swear, as God is my witness, I will never eat Velveeta again.
Thankfully my Mother loved REAL cheese and real butter and whole milk...so while she skimped on a lot of things, she didn't on those.

My hubby grew up on Velveeta...he's the same way, you could pay him enough to eat it now.
 

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