Are you or were you 'guilty'???

[duh_Mom]

Thought I would start a separate thread to ask this question. My weigh day is sunday and then I post in the weigh in thread. I had a big drop this week - I am almost at the 80 pound mark. And my first thought when I saw that number is oh, this can't be real. I honestly can say that I feel guilty for losing this weight - seemingly so easy.

I mentioned it to the wife and she rather loudly reminded me that I have been through a lot to get the damn surgery scheduled, then about died so I deserve every pound. I don't disagree with her,but you also can't help how those feelings come up and talking about this stuff and putting it out there takes away the power.

Has anyone else ever felt the guilt over losing? I am not miserable - I feel better than I have felt in decades - it is like I think I should suffer through loosing each ounce or something.

appreciate any feedback you can send my way.

 

[Pacifica]

I'm at 71 pounds down, and I know what you mean. I think it just makes me realize how frigging hard I struggled to lose and gain, lose and gain particularly when the diabetes came on for me. To me it isn't so much guilt, as sheer disbelief that I can eat well, move my body freely, be comfortable and satisfied, but still lose weight during this phase. It is exciting, but surreal and a little anxiety-provoking. Feels like I'm waiting for the other shoe to drop.

 

[k9ophile]

Your wife is one smart lady; you should listen to her more often. I agree with Pacifica 100% It took me a while to realize that that shoe won't drop, because for once, there is no other shoe. I got a very good lesson about how carbs affect my weight. It was easier to understand with my DS than before. Of course I learned this after a few years of living with the DS and you'll get rid of those guilt feelings after a while. Now I just celebrate the awe of my body which I never truly understood for many, many years.

 

[Munchkin]

Life trained us, we need to suffer a lot to be deserving of losing weight. And that is completely wrong. That's why one of my favorite sayings is as follows: Obesity is a disease, not a character flaw! And it's true.

 

[DianaCox]

Only when I know my weight loss is from loss of muscle mass because I've been a slug.

 

[bearmom]

Thought I would start a separate thread to ask this question. My weigh day is sunday and then I post in the weigh in thread. I had a big drop this week - I am almost at the 80 pound mark. And my first thought when I saw that number is oh, this can't be real. I honestly can say that I feel guilty for losing this weight - seemingly so easy.

I mentioned it to the wife and she rather loudly reminded me that I have been through a lot to get the damn surgery scheduled, then about died so I deserve every pound. I don't disagree with her,but you also can't help how those feelings come up and talking about this stuff and putting it out there takes away the power.

Has anyone else ever felt the guilt over losing? I am not miserable - I feel better than I have felt in decades - it is like I think I should suffer through loosing each ounce or something.

appreciate any feedback you can send my way.

There is a stigma to WLS, and you are supposed to feel like a guilty, lazy, gluttonous sloth for being fat, and too lazy to do what you should to lose weight if you resort to WLS. Being fat is a character flaw donchaknow.

Any of that feel familiar? I thought I was a little bit immune to that, so was unpleasantly surprised at how guilty I felt that I was finally able to lose weight without having to amputate a limb or my head to do it.

Just enjoy it if it's easy for you. I'm certain you have suffered enough with the extra weight and dieting.

 

[DSRIGGS]

I can honestly say that no I don't feel guilty at all because of two reasons :

1. Medical issues were a major cause of my weight gain.
2. This has not been easy at all and if you look back at things it hasn't been easy for you either.

I do feel a little guilty because so far I can eat anything I want from fat to virtually any and as much of any carb I want without it causing the weight gain struggles others face. I am waiting for that shoe to eventually drop and will adjust as necessary but I am secretly hoping that I have magic powers and it never happens.

 

[k9ophile]

I can honestly say that no I don't feel guilty at all because of two reasons :

1. Medical issues were a major cause of my weight gain.
2. This has not been easy at all and if you look back at things it hasn't been easy for you either.

I do feel a little guilty because so far I can eat anything I want from fat to virtually any and as much of any carb I want without it causing the weight gain struggles others face. I am waiting for that shoe to eventually drop and will adjust as necessary but I am secretly hoping that I have magic powers and it never happens.

Point # 1: my massive weight caused major medical issues. Too often it is a cause and effect relationship one way or another. I never felt guilty for having my diseased gallbladder removed or my impacted wisdom teeth removed. Therefore I refuse to feel guilt about my WLS and the health I gained.

 

[newanatomy]

I was raised catholic of course, I am guilty over every single thing.