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My brother, who is a methamphetamine addict has terminal cancer. The oncologist gave him 6 months to live back in April of 2013. He had a heart attack today and is in the local hospital for palliative care. They really can't do much because of his cancer. I guess any time you mess with the heart they have to give you a LOT of blood thinners which will make his tumors bleed out. Anyway, that's the information I sifted out of what the local doctor said. The cardiologist says basically the same thing.

If it were me, I would rather die of the heart attack rather than the cancer. He is in pretty good shape for the shape he's in I would say. (being non-medical and all)

My sister, whom I diagnosed as being bat **** crazy brought him some Oreos, Coke (the regular kind, lol) and a pair of sweats back in April and then has not seen or called him since until a few weeks ago when he got a large settlement from the government for his cancer Dx. (He worked at the Nevada Test Site for a few years.) So she finds out about the money and shows up to tell him how much she cares. That's fine, whatever BUT don't try to ******** me about why you are there. Where was she when he had to be cleaned up, his house cleaned, laundry done, taken to the doctors, etc, etc...?? Where was all her caring when she threw her mother out on her ass after everything her mother did for her. Arrrgg. She pisses me off!!

It was rather tense at the hospital all day with my brother, my mother and my sister all there. My son came in also, I think to make sure that I didn't kill my sister. I assured him that: 1. I wouldn't do it in front of witnesses, 2. I wouldn't upset mother or brother at a time like this to confront her, 3. I will probably never confront her unless she brings something up because she lives in a houseboat on that river in Egypt so why bother?

My sister, the caring Drama Queen is spending the night at the hospital in my brothers room. Actually, I am happy about that, knowing someone is there and I can come home for the night.

If any of you need a family, I can spare a few, gladly!
 
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you don't get to pick your family. Just do what you need to feel good about yourself - no regrets afterward.
 
I am sorry you have to go through this. I am swinging critters, saying a prayer that your brother has an easy passing! I agree with Happy DSr. Take care of yourself and stay strong.
Barb
 
Oh man! Double suck! Swigging critters for your brother.

But girl omg your "Coke (the regular kind)" had me giggling like a mad woman. Some in my extended family have drug issues so I did raise my eyebrow when I saw he was brought coke lol

I hope it all turns out somehow and the least painful for your bro.

Hang in there and keep sane and healthy :)
 
Man, that's a lot to deal with. I'm sorry you're going through the wringer right now. Sending love and positive energy to you and your brother.
 
I am sorry you are going through this and applaud your ability to maintain your cool. Strong woman. Some people are just plain ******** and either don't know it or don't care. I hope your brother does not suffer he and your family are in my thoughts.
 
Thank you all. It helps to come here and vent a little. Both my sons are level-headed guys that know what is REALLY going on so that helps. There is a lot of back story with my mother that some of you know, so it does get hard at times. Honestly, I think that the way my brother and mother have treated me in the past makes it easier to take care of them in a way. There is not a deep emotional attachment that gets in the way. My oldest boy told me he thinks I must be some kind of a saint. I set him straight on that one! LOL I would not take care of either one of them if there was anyone else in the world that would. I just have to do it for various reasons, like karma and it is just the right thing to do, ya know?

I appreciate all of your kind words and thoughts. :5grouphug:
 
So sorry chick. Your sister is a dick. I hope your brother has a will in place cause your sister is hunting wabbits!
 
So sorry chick. Your sister is a dick. I hope your brother has a will in place cause your sister is hunting wabbits!

Thank you, he has placed cashiers checks in his daughter's safe and my son's safe and it gets split up between his kids. She can't and won't get a dime. If there is any justice I will be there to see her face when she finds out. And you are spot on, she is a dick.
 
Sorry you have to be dealing with all of the parts of this. May you have peace, may your brother have comfort, and may your mother and sister not be giant pains in your back side.
 
When I have to do things for my family that pisses me off, I remember that I am modeling how I want my kids to treat me. At least I hope so ...

I told my son that I would hope that someone would step in and take care of me if I needed it as one of the reasons. I think they are paying attention.
 
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