Spiky Bugger
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He was in the moderate-to-severe hearing loss range when diagnosed. But the loss was bad enough that he had to get hearing aids to keep his commercial drivers license, required for his job. It was always there, but has deteriorated over time. Now, when our security alarm goes off he can't hear it w/out his hearing aids. But daily life AARGH:
Me (looking for him, he's in his bathroom tending to psoriasis issues): Are you still in there?
Now, that CAN BE interpreted as a complaint, but I was just looking for him. Used "still" because that's where I last saw him and he often wanders outside w/out mentioning that he's leaving.
He starts "defending"--It takes a long time to put this crap on...
I interrupt--that wasn't a criticism, it was a question!
Him--But your tone of voice!
Me--I no longer have a "tone of voice " that your hearing aids can discern. I have an "old woman practically yelling at a mostly deaf guy voice.". If I don't yell, you can't hear me. You are confusing VOLUME for "tone of voice," which makes me the cranky old bitch who is always criticising you.
And it does. And it makes me sad that he thinks I'm always attacking him. Now I must attack him for blaming me, right?
Me (looking for him, he's in his bathroom tending to psoriasis issues): Are you still in there?
Now, that CAN BE interpreted as a complaint, but I was just looking for him. Used "still" because that's where I last saw him and he often wanders outside w/out mentioning that he's leaving.
He starts "defending"--It takes a long time to put this crap on...
I interrupt--that wasn't a criticism, it was a question!
Him--But your tone of voice!
Me--I no longer have a "tone of voice " that your hearing aids can discern. I have an "old woman practically yelling at a mostly deaf guy voice.". If I don't yell, you can't hear me. You are confusing VOLUME for "tone of voice," which makes me the cranky old bitch who is always criticising you.
And it does. And it makes me sad that he thinks I'm always attacking him. Now I must attack him for blaming me, right?
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