Spiky Bugger
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That's what an acquaintance said about my neighbor. Granted, my gaydar DOES go off a bit when the neighbor is nearby...but, as we shall soon see, it is not infallible.
We had a bit of a "discussion," wherein I may have mentioned the word "homophobe."
Segue to a week later. The name-calling acquaintance FINALLY mentions that HE is gay. (My gaydar didn't even twitch.)
I am...understandably, I believe...confused. But now he tells me that he isn't a homophobic gay guy, rather he was upset that the neighbor is ruining the bride-to-be's life as well as the lives of their future children and even his own. (Since the previously-homophobic gay acquaintance is divorced and has three grown kids, I suspect he was actually expressing his anger at the decisions HE made when he was the neighbor's age.)
Maybe I'm too old to understand the dynamics of being an out gay person.
But now there's a part of me that hopes the bride-to-be has seen the film In and Out.
We had a bit of a "discussion," wherein I may have mentioned the word "homophobe."
Segue to a week later. The name-calling acquaintance FINALLY mentions that HE is gay. (My gaydar didn't even twitch.)
I am...understandably, I believe...confused. But now he tells me that he isn't a homophobic gay guy, rather he was upset that the neighbor is ruining the bride-to-be's life as well as the lives of their future children and even his own. (Since the previously-homophobic gay acquaintance is divorced and has three grown kids, I suspect he was actually expressing his anger at the decisions HE made when he was the neighbor's age.)
Maybe I'm too old to understand the dynamics of being an out gay person.
But now there's a part of me that hopes the bride-to-be has seen the film In and Out.