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Chatting with my sister today...

Discussion in 'Vertical Sleeve Gastrectomy' started by Spiky Bugger, Nov 16, 2017.

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    Spiky Bugger

    Spiky Bugger Well-Known Member

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    She had the VSG. Lost about 140-150 pounds. Regained about 70, so far. Didn't want the DS.
     
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    DianaCox

    DianaCox Bad Cop

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    That situation always reminds me of Flowers for Algernon.
     
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    Larra

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    But she wouldn't have handled the vitamin and protein requirements of the DS, and she knew it. She would probably be doing worse by now with the DS than she is with her VSG - lighter, but sicker.
     
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    Spiky Bugger

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    Yes. You are right.

    Over the years, she has become convinced that she is stupid. She's not a particularly scholarly woman, but she is not stupid. She is capable of learning new things, but is so sure she can't, she doesn't try.

    Example:
    Me: why doesn't your credit card offer points/credits?
    Sister: no! No! No points. That stuff is too complicated.
    Me: uhm..? I charge shit, the credit card company gives me points. Every once in a while, I they remind me that I have tens of thousands of points and click a button that says "Credit my Account for $324.00" or something.
    Sister: no! I tried it once. Too complicated.

    So, she's "a better man than I" in that she goes for daily walks at the mall...but then she spends hours and hours every day doing jigsaw puzzles. Every once in a while she reads a book. And enjoys it. She was going to order one I just finished, so we have some similar interests.

    And she's not stupid.

    But she can be frustrating.

    (Didn't help that the year I skipped a grade she got held back a grade. We're 19 months apart in age and we graduated from HS four years apart.)
     
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    Spiky Bugger

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    That story makes me all teary-eyed.
     
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    JackieOnLine

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    do you think she will keep gaining?

    me, too
     
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    Spiky Bugger

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    Yes.

    She feeds her fears and frustrations and anger...and she is scared and frustrated and angry that her DH has come so close to death several times this year alone.
     
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    JackieOnLine

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    hilary1617

    hilary1617 First time at the rodeo.

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    I'm sorry Sue. :(
     
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    Duckman

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    sorry to hear it. My echo tech Thursday said her sister did the same thing - VSG and is powering through it with McDonald's sweet tea. She said she buys four larges at a time and just inhales them

    jfc
     
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    southernlady

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    Back long ago when I was working in fast food, I lived on sweet tea. When I finally switched to unsweetened (which I still hate), I dropped 25 lbs.
     
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    JackieOnLine

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    one of my Home Health patients mentioned his son is about to get "that" surgery for weight loss (because there's just the one, right?) and I usually will NOT stick my nose in but I had to say "I hope not the band".

    He was unclear enough about other things (his sister lives "in Oklahoma or one of those places near where The President lives") that I decided to meet his son just to make sure, and he is getting a VSG.

    I didn't say any thing more but it's not easy. But I'm in someone's home as a COTA and I need to stay within my scope of practice. and yet, I will say "for god's sake, don't get a band" !!!
     
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