Svetlana Leigh
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I'm usually not the type to care about what most people think of me. I was sensitive as a child and cried easily in elementary school, but when I got to middle school I realized that I was taller, and bigger than most other kids my age. At that point, I actually became a bully until I hit high school and learned to control my emotions and feelings. It was only then that I became a more pleasant student, became popular, and was actually voted best personality and most likely to succeed. I guess that old saying "Hurt people hurt people" holds true because that's why I became the bully that I was at that time. Don't get me wrong, I still have my moments of bitchiness but someone has to REALLY press my buttons to make me go to that level.
Before my surgery a coworker and I had been friends mainly at work for 15 years. She's older than me and I looked up to her and always sought her advice. You could always find us either in her office or my office laughing hysterically, or simply chatting about work issues in general. Since my surgery she has been very short, snippy, and kind of hateful with me. At first I thought she was going through menopause so I dismissed it because I remembered how my mom struggled with it. She tries to avoid me when we're in the halls or eating lunch, and she won't make eye contact with me. Needless to say my feelings are hurt and now those feelings of being a bitch are starting to surface. I've done nothing to her. I have not had a full conversation with her since my surgery, nor have I discussed my surgery with her or anyone for that matter other than you all in this group or on FB where I don't use my name or my picture. I'm not going to be mean to her or approach her about it because I've done absolutely nothing wrong and I feel that would make things even more awkward. Besides, she would never admit to acting differently towards me anyway. I guess today I just wanted to be heard...
Before my surgery a coworker and I had been friends mainly at work for 15 years. She's older than me and I looked up to her and always sought her advice. You could always find us either in her office or my office laughing hysterically, or simply chatting about work issues in general. Since my surgery she has been very short, snippy, and kind of hateful with me. At first I thought she was going through menopause so I dismissed it because I remembered how my mom struggled with it. She tries to avoid me when we're in the halls or eating lunch, and she won't make eye contact with me. Needless to say my feelings are hurt and now those feelings of being a bitch are starting to surface. I've done nothing to her. I have not had a full conversation with her since my surgery, nor have I discussed my surgery with her or anyone for that matter other than you all in this group or on FB where I don't use my name or my picture. I'm not going to be mean to her or approach her about it because I've done absolutely nothing wrong and I feel that would make things even more awkward. Besides, she would never admit to acting differently towards me anyway. I guess today I just wanted to be heard...