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Discussion in 'Duodenal Switch' started by DianaCox, Feb 20, 2014.

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    cheryl baker

    cheryl baker Member

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    Sorry I have not replied. . I have been away from the boards because I was struggling and people were "being mean" and I just couldn't take it on top if already struggling.
    I still have not got the courage up to get my report from the hospital. . I like the idea of using my pcp to get it for free and then get a copy from them .. will have to see if they will do that.
    Who ever posted that they think if he says he did it than he did and that they don't think he would lie thanks. That makes me feel a little better.
     
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    JackieOnLine

    JackieOnLine Moderator Staff Member

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    Cheryl - I also have trouble getting done things I need to do. it's hard.

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    Elizabeth N.

    Elizabeth N. Herder of cats

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    If someone was "mean" to you, it was not on here. I just reviewed your history and the replies.

    I understand that you are struggling and feeling emotionally fragile. I hope that as you heal further, you will be able to interact more from your "rational" side and less from that fragile place. You are doing very well and you just need to keep on marching. More fluids, keep on going.
     
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    cheryl baker

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    No I was not talking about here which is why this place is the only place I have started posting in again.
     
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    Elizabeth N.

    Elizabeth N. Herder of cats

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    Okay, I'm glad to hear that. Be aware that some people are going to be very blunt with you and I am one of them. It is up to you how you respond.

    My goal is your safety and success. I have no interest in anything else. To that end, I'm going to be very straightforward and factual. If I think you're doing something stupid, I'm going to tell you. If you try to dictate to me how I should respond to your questions, I'm going to get confrontational.

    I gave you a pass on that behavior once, on your other thread. It will not happen again, and it's one more than almost everyone gets from me. You are responsible for your own feelings and for what you get out of your internet interactions.

    You have been told what you need to do about your surgical report. You know perfectly well that you need to stay off the scale. It is time for you to pull up your bootstraps, take a very deep breath, and forward-march. There's no going back, so (pardon my mixing the metaphors) it's time to play the hand you were dealt.

    We are here to help you, but we are not going to babysit your feelings.

    Are you in therapy? It's something I recommend to almost everyone, especially when the emotional turmoil is very evident.
     
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    cheryl baker

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    Thanks. Yes I am.
     
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    Elizabeth N.

    Elizabeth N. Herder of cats

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    Good. I strongly recommend printing out your posts from here and taking them to your next session.
     
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    Sheanie

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    @cheryl baker , when requesting YOUR records, it helps to become a broken record. Years ago I needed copies of my medical records from my hospital. This was in the 80's, and it was VERY unpopular to question your surgeon. I took a friend with me who was born in Kentucky (I am in Michigan). She was a godsend, with her southern charm and lady-like ways. Even way back then, she said "bless your heart" and I KNEW in my mind she really meant "eff you, you nasty woman" when we finally got my copies of what they had done to me in writing.

    Take a friend with you to these difficult appointments, if you do not already. I have even told a doctor to "please sit back down" when he got up and had his hand on the doorknob to leave. I had 3 questions written down, and he said "how long IS your list?" I asked back "does it matter?" and then I laughed. He sat back down, and before he got back up, he made a point to ask me "are we done?"

    Don't you EVER forget: You employ THEM. Your doctor/surgeon is your employee. Either one of you can end the relationship at any time, for any reason. You can dismiss him, he can dismiss you. You hold the power.
     
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    southernlady

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    THAT is a hard lesson to learn.

    We are taught to respect the "power" that medical people hold in our lives. Many think there is nothing a doctor can do that is wrong...but as my dh is fond of remarking, what do they call the person who graduates LAST in their class at medical school...DOCTOR! It also helps to remember they are PRACTICING medicine...it's not a perfect science.
     
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    Sheanie

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    @southernlady , my husband, the dentist, uses that same joke. And I always say it's the practice of medicine because they haven't gotten it perfected yet.

    I have learned that when a doctor cops an attitude, I do very well bringing my husband along next time. They don't dare pull that shite with him in the room. It used to make me angry, you know, male/female, chauvinism and all. But now I figure I can play those reindeer games by THEIR rules, and WIN.
     
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    southernlady

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    LOL, I just did that THIS week...with my hema who happens to be FEMALE...she has an extremely annoying habit of calling women "my dear" and it's EVERY DAMNED SENTENCE. This last visit, he was there and she only did it once! BTW, she is rescheduling me for another round of infusions of a different kind since I seem to be SEVERELY allergic to the InFed.
     
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    brooklyngirl

    brooklyngirl Yankee gone south

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    Plus imagine the "my dear" in the most stereotypical Boris and Natasha-esque accent ever ;)
     
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    southernlady

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    LOL, SO TRUE!!!!
     
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    Vinnero

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    I have talked (on-line) to the person I believe you are talking about and she told me that she understands why Dr. Bonnor decided to only do a sleeve, granted she was disappointed, but understands.

    Dr. Bonnor was my surgeon and he warned me about the 2 step, but I stressed that I want it in 1. I understand the precaution someone would have, I would have been angry if I came out with just a sleeve. Other than that I really liked my experience with Dr. Bonnor and his staff.
     
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    MamaShelia

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    Jordan,

    Next to Wonder Woman, you are my new hero(ine)! You rock, Sister! As a homeschooling mom and military wife it seems we are always fighting someone for something, so it may as well be for ourselves on occasion!

    You rock!
    (((HUUUGS)))
    Shelia
     
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